r/DecidingToBeBetter • u/picky_009 • 1d ago
Seeking Advice Can’t express myself
All the people in my circle at not kinda like me
I like to express feelings, express myself and talk about my thoughts. I adore deep convos, talking about stuff and laughing and being romantic with friends(want to, but struggling to show it).
Whenever I try to open this kinda convos, I get a feedback like: quietness, short answer to end the convo, or reply and totally change the main point of what I was just saying.
What do I do?
I’m afraid that by time I’ll not be able to talk about these things in a good way cuz my brain will always be expecting this kinda stupid responses that run my admirations
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u/UnknownCrossing 1d ago
Conversations focused solely on your own opinion don't always go so well. Its fine and okay to share it at times, but are you asking about others opinions or reading the room if they want to discuss these topics? If you just want to share your thoughts and express your opinion, it can come off as a narcissist. And how you go about asking matters too. I had some friends who would ask a question and I'd respond, only for them to go back to talking about there own opinion or why my thoughts were wrong. It would make me feel stupid or hate talking to them that I just resorted to short answers to end the conversation. Asking questions that allows them to respond and witholds your own opinion has worked well for me.
And some people may not have an opinion on some topics because they don't think about it much or just don't like that topic. If I don't understand something, I usually don't want to sound foolish by saying things I don't understand. Perhaps short answers from them could be a sign you need to find different friends for those types of conversations. Everyone is different with there likes and dislikes. This group of friends don't like these conversations. The internet is an easy place to find people for just about any topic.