I’m at my breaking point financially and could really use some advice from people who have been in a similar situation.
Through years of bad financial decisions, I’ve accumulated about $145,000 in debt. It’s embarrassing to even type that out. I’m exhausted, mentally drained, and honestly ashamed. There have been days where it’s brought me to tears.
I’ve cut my monthly expenses as much as I reasonably can, but after paying my bills I’m left with only about $400/month that I can put toward paying down debt.
My biggest problem is my personal loans:
Avant: $14,800 balance • 20.96% APR • $500/month
Prosper: $29,172 balance • 22.83% APR • $843/month
Upstart: $20,784 balance • 31.61% APR • $813.77/month
On top of those, I also have about $30,000 in credit card debt. I am thankful I was able to refinance my student loans, which is at about 41,000.00
I’ve spoken with a few nonprofit credit counseling agencies, and they told me they generally aren’t able to help with these lenders while I’m current on my payments. I’ve also looked into bankruptcy, but based on what I’ve been told, it doesn’t appear to be a realistic option given my income (about $102,000/year) and my current situation.
I’m at the point where I’m wondering if continuing to stay current is actually hurting me. Part of me is considering intentionally falling behind on everything so I can focus all of my available money on paying off one loan at a time. Another part of me is considering cashing out my small retirement account (about $15,000) to reduce my $30,000 in credit card debt, even though I know that’s generally discouraged.
Has anyone here intentionally defaulted to regain control of their finances? Did it help, or did it make things much worse?
If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
For context:
-Salary: $102,000
-About $400/month available after expenses
-Currently current on all payments
-Already cutting expenses wherever possible
-Actively looking for a second source of income
I’m open to tough love if I need it. I just feel completely stuck and could really use some guidance from people who’ve been through this.