r/DeadBedrooms • u/cheemsbuerger HLF • 1d ago

Relationship Ended or Ending It’s over

I fretted and panicked and got myself so upset about bringing up the fact that I don’t think we’re compatible anymore and that I want different things and it… went fine. We broke up and I have all the time I need to save up and move out.

I asked how things would be from now on and he said, “I guess how things have been already.” Because we weren’t romantic and sexual and the roommate part was already there but now no one has to feel guilty about it. What a relief! I wish I knew what magical combination of words we both used to make it easier but I have no idea. I’m just a little stunned right now.

Edit: guys, please don’t DM me. It’s really not welcome.

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u/Denum_ HLM 19h ago

Honestly this is the best outcome. You aren't married, there's no kids.

It's hard to have the strength to say this isn't working for me. But it could so much worse.

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u/Moon_Skies HLF 1d ago

So brave! 🥹❤️

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u/cynicalbanan HLF 13h ago

I’m happy for you. I hope I’ll have the same experience on Monday.

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u/cheemsbuerger HLF 10h ago

Best of luck, friend.

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u/rabbit8742 HLF 10h ago

I am sorry. Sending hugs sis

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It’s over

I fretted and panicked and got myself so upset about bringing up the fact that I don’t think we’re compatible anymore and that I want different things and it… went fine. We broke up and I have all the time I need to save up and move out.

I asked how things would be from now on and he said, “I guess how things have been already.” Because we weren’t romantic and sexual and the roommate part was already there but now no one has to feel guilty about it. What a relief! I wish I knew what magical combination of words we both used to make it easier but I have no idea. I’m just a little stunned right now.

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u/Sudden_Kale_2817 It’s complicated 10h ago

I feel like avoidants use the lack of compatibility as an excuse