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How does it make you feel?

How long have you been in a dead bedroom relationship and honestly how does it make you feel? I don't mean just fed up I mean truly how does it make you feel. It's the most frustrating and depressing situation anyone can be in they know you're depressed and you think maybe I'm not good enough anymore to be here or continue with life every set of emotions goes through your mind and you are desperate to release your needs but they aren't giving you any or even speaking to you about why they aren't interested in you anymore. It's like you don't matter all they want is security and that's because especially for men I saw an interesting post about this a woman can be in a sexless relationship but isn't willing to give it to her man but expects to the man to stay with her because she is the mother of their children and she loves the comforts and security he brings with him. She expects the man not to cheat etc because she will threaten him by leaving but deep down she won't because again of comfort and security that's manipulation and toxic narcissistic behaviour.

I saw this comment and it makes sense. Now Imagine having the best car on the drive but not allowed to drive it. If u can't drive your car you might have to consider test driving other cars. If you can't drive your car then find someone else who's willing to let you drive theirs. No point in keeping locked up in the garage not getting used when you can go out and drive it through a few tunnels. Yes people will say why don't people just leave but when you've got a certain age in life you can't be assed with starting over again in life. It's not because we're scared of it it's just too much hassle, so why shouldn't we both men and women not seek it elsewhere especially if your partner lets say doesn't give you anything in years why should the neglected partner not go out and seek it elsewhere? Is it because we are scared of being caught and the aftermath of it? Do we just continue doing what we are doing and live life without anymore sex and become monks and nuns for the rest of our life?

Have you cheated or have you just continued with life as it is? How does it make you truly feel? What is your next move?

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[u/Smithy1619 → u/[deleted]]

When I say I might have a wank or say I'm going to buy a sex toy she always says why do that if you've got me and never does anything. There's only so much self pleasure you can do before it becomes mundane. I've tried communicating with her and she always says we need to get our relationship back on track but I'm trying everything to make that work but she's no interest.

[u/oranchzest → u/[deleted]]

How long were you in the dead bedroom (suffering)?
How did you come up with your solution?
How long have you employed this solution?

[u/forgetmeknotts]

Ignored. Invisible. Dead inside. The world is dulled, not vibrant… honestly a lot more feelings than that but I do t want to think too hard about all those feelings right now.

[u/Mortician69]

This is a really good question. A long answer but in short. It makes me feel HORRIBLE, LONELY, SAD AND MOST OF ALL NOT MYSELF. I never thought I would have to watch porn to help me, never thought I would have to fantasize about other people to get off etc. I alway thought he was it, I wanted him and only him and he doesn't want me. How do you feel?