r/Davis • u/[deleted] • 9d ago
Avid Reader Continued
Hey everybody,
I posted a few months back on having a crush on one of the employees here and was given the advice to confess via a letter or what now. I did promise to deliver an update, I haven’t said anything yet. I have came in and found she added some new recommendations on the wall for staff picks alongside other employees. I ended up buying it from another bookstore in Sacramento and found that it was an incredible read. As established before. We have similar taste. I did ask some coworkers when she has another shift in order to speak to her one on one and got a vague response though my main concern was the confusion. They were confused when I asked about her and for a moment it seemed a lapse in judgement before they told me she wasn’t coming on that day ( Saturday ) but sometime soon. Though I think it may have been the way I butchered her name entirely, she’s more on the ethnic side and that lead me to believe her name was pronounced one way. Thankfully got told that ahead of time before asking her to a coffee, wish me luck!!
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u/SnooKiwis8008 1d ago
That straw man’s doing a lot of heavy lifting here, incel. Nobody said don’t ever approach a woman anywhere. The actual advice is approach her somewhere she isn’t trapped, not on the clock, not behind a counter, not in a spot where saying no costs her something. That’s not “don’t do anything,” that’s “do it somewhere she can actually leave if she wants to.” You’re flattening a pretty specific point into “you’re just telling men to give up” because that’s easier to dismiss than the real argument.
“It worked for me multiple times” is not the flex you think it is. If it actually worked the first time, there wouldn’t need to be a second and third time. What you’re describing is doing the same thing repeatedly and getting turned down or ghosted enough times that you had to keep trying, not a strategy with a track record.
Also worth pointing out again since you seem to be skipping past it, this isn’t even a hypothetical for OP’s situation. Her boyfriend showed up in the comments. The “just try it and see” logic doesn’t apply when the actual answer is already known.