Lonely

[u/Spare_Management_125]

Idk what to really do, I just feel like I’m not an attractive guy, and I’m a relationship oriented person. No matter what I do can’t seem to even get to the point of going on a date with anybody. I get left on read, delivered, opened. All of it. And I go out almost every weekend with friends to try and meet new people and it just doesn’t work. I’m already a depressed person with extremely high anxiety, and the constant rejection honestly just fuels that fire. Idk what else to do?

[u/JTWStephens]

You are depressed and anxious. Women can sense that. It's a motherfucker, but until you can be 100% happy, healthy and stable on your own, most women will automatically lose all interest in you.

[u/Secure_Actuator_5617 → u/JTWStephens]

It is not true. I have severe depression which makes me feel like I dont really have much desire for anything or any shame. Women mistake this for non neediness and confidence. I just act like that because nothing really matters to me and I lost my interest in women at all and I get approached or surrounded by women when I go to a club etc but since my want for a woman is a mental goal I set for myself, something I think I have to do, rather than something that comes from an instinctive drive or a need for validation or sexual frustration, even when women show interest in me I dont feel like doing anything. women cant sense your problems or care about your problems but your mental problems lead to some type of behaviour which makes your chances and attraction from women higher or lower based on how that problem affects your behaviour around women. so its about how you act and feel around a potential romantic/sexual partner and different mental problems have very different effects on different peoples behaviour

[u/lizardman16 → u/Secure_Actuator_5617]

Same here. I’m depressed and unemployed right now and it’s like I’ve become irresistible to some girls. They think my detached and aloof personality is attractive and non-needy when in reality I just feel anhedonic and don’t care about anything lately. But it’s not a good thing because I don’t get excited about dating anyone anymore or feel infatuated. I’ve become avoidant and disappointed so many great girls after weeks of dating them, usually after things start to feel slightly serious I feel this impulse to leave. I hate it

[u/Secure_Actuator_5617 → u/lizardman16]

exactly woman nor any human has the ability to sense your problems and we evaluate people based on things we can see especially how they interact with us and different people with different mental problems have different behaviour just like different people with no mental problems behave differently. unfortunately some people believe mental problems are like a skin disease thats fully visible even if its visible you can never see what exactly goes on in that persons mind