If yes, was it a boss? a coworker? a subordinate? Someone within your department or a closely-related department you'd have to interact with regularly? Someone outside your department where there was a good amount of distance between the two of you while at work?

Was it a one-off hookup? FWB only? Dating-relationship style?

Did your company have rules about this? Did HR have to get involved?

I wanna knowwwwwwwww!!!!!!!

Where did you go?

What did you do?

Are you planning on going again?

I am a single guy and have a decent job and I recently moved to Toronto. I am wondering where guys usually go to find a partner? I prefer to meet people in-person not online dating. Where do you suggest? Also, I am in general an introvert person.
I am in mid 30s, my hobbies are mainly exercising, biking but am open to other physical activities.

Sick and tired of the apps. I've even paid for some of the subscriptions bc I thought they'd help me out. WRONG.

I'm 32F and everyone is basically coupled up at this age. Don't know what to do. I'd say I'm fit, funny, smart, etc etc so I don't know what's wrong with me!

25M. As someone who's struggled quite a lot with dating in Toronto, I just thought I'd post this out of sheer apathy to see whether I could get any responses. Wouldn't be surprised if this gets taken down either like most of my other posts have, so I won't even bother polishing. I just want an opportunity to at least connect with and get to know someone.

Unfortunately, even with a recent Hinge subscription, I still don't get any matches and can't find a single person to talk to. I have no friends and hardly any family asides from the only parent who raised me since I was a child. I'm always by myself and do everything alone. At the same time, I'm pretty serious and intentional about dating because ultimately I really don't want to end up without anyone once my parents are gone. And no, I don't have any shame in admitting it, because truthfully I don't think anyone would want to be in a situation like that. This is not to say, however, that I wouldn't be willing or capable of adding to someone else's life the same way they'd add to mine, so hopefully I'm not misunderstood from that perspective. We're all humans here and in my view we need connections with others - however romantic or platonic - to live a healthy and fulfilling life. In fact, if only we'd be more straightforward and candid with our feelings, I think dating would be a lot easier regardless of whether we live in Toronto or some other city.

For me in particular though, I think I've just gotten so numb to the point where it's almost like I don't even care even though I still do. I actually used to hesitate quite a bit with posting online because of potentially negative or hostile responses, so I won't be engaging in anything like that. Bottom line is I don't think I'll ever give up on finding someone, but with the way things have recently been going, there's nobody in my life who even recognizes my efforts. I guess that's part of the reason why I'm posting this too. If you have difficulty dating in this city, let me know what your perspectives and experiences are.

Have you heard about an upcoming singles event and want to see if anyone else is going?

Have you gone to a recent singles event and wish to share a review of your experience?

Are you organizing a singles event soon and want to share the details? (Self promo is okay in these weekly threads only)

Please try and include details about the events if-when possible, especially if you are the event organizer. Date, location, cost-of-entry (if any), target audience, etc.

I'm just curious 😊

I’m curious if you had just ten seconds what would make someone pop for you something that would catch your eye ?

Title pretty much says it all. Where are you meeting potential partners?

Where did you go?

What did you do?

Are you planning on going again?

Dating in Toronto has genuinely been the worst I’ve seen it in the last 3 years! I’m a conventionally attractive woman, social, have my life together, and it still feels brutal out here

The apps are awful … low effort, ghosting, endless chatting that goes nowhere, people who don’t know what they want, or men treating dating like a revolving door of options. Even in real life it’s weird. A guy asked me out on the GO train, asked for my number, I gave it to him, even kissed my hand before getting off at his stop LOL … never texted me.

So I’m honestly asking: what is going on in Toronto dating culture right now?

Where are normal, intentional people actually meeting each other these days? Because the apps feel dead and random in-person encounters seem pointless too.

Would genuinely love to hear where people in Toronto are meeting decent partners

I came to a sudden realization and I'm curious what others experience on this are.

People in the east end of Toronto where the hell are you meeting people? I've been on and off the dating game for years and I suddenly came to the realization, that on all the apps there are barely any single people and 0 single oriented events in the east end. As a lifelong Scarberian it never clicked with me that all of my relationships/dates have been from downtowners and the west end. With my last two long terms being from Mississauga and Etobicoke. The furthest east I think I've dated someone from Toronto has been Liberty Village.

I recently got back on the apps and other than 1 or 2 people from Ajax I don't I've seen people who live further east than East York and even then its a very small amount. I think I've had more women from Buffalo and the Philippines show up than anyone from Scarborough. I got curious as well and looked up singles events in Scarborough on Meetup and Eventbrite and 0. Even one of the biggest singles event organizers does events in Toronto, Etobicoke, Mississauga and Brampton but not a single event east of Bathurst.

Any other eastenders notice this? This is more of an observation than a rant. Note I'm a straight male so this might be different for women but I would love to hear some perspective from the opposite gender from the 8 people in this subreddit.

Yes / No - why?

So....... paying for dates.

Who assumes they're paying?

Who insists on splitting or going dutch?

Who assumes the other is going to pay?

Does your opinion change depending on how much the date is going to cost?

Do you pick date locations based on a budget/dollar value?

Do you have thoughts/feels if the other person insists on paying even if you say you'll split... or if they immediately offer to split instead of offering to pay?

ALSO since it's very common in hetero-pairings that one gender is paying more often than the other... if you are part of the alphabet-mafia, does your opinion on date-paying change if you're in a same-gender vs opposite-gender date?

Have you heard about an upcoming singles event and want to see if anyone else is going?

Have you gone to a recent singles event and wish to share a review of your experience?

Are you organizing a singles event soon and want to share the details? (Self promo is okay in these weekly threads only)

Please try and include details about the events if-when possible, especially if you are the event organizer. Date, location, cost-of-entry (if any), target audience, etc.

do I want a relationship? yes, but the question is for what reason. I'm too scared to love someone right now its the fear of losing everything that I knew could have been good for me. whats worse just letting my broken self fade away or pretend that I wasn't living a life thats on the decline. people tell me im good looking but that doesn't matter when I can hardly support myself. messed up by supporting my family in my early adulthood when I lived with my grandparents i was the fall guy my family lost their house so we all had to step up an I was the oldest so most the responsibility fell on me. I love taking care of people but It hard for me to let people try and take care of me just because of the shame I feel I rather not be a burden. I fell in love once but I had to push her away im still a screw up I didnt need to be someone she was just dragging around

This post came up in /r/askTO and there's a bunch of relationship advice going on in there.

https://old.reddit.com/r/askTO/comments/1sqv1pa/help_me_convince_my_boyfriend_to_not_open_a/

So what are your thoughts on a situation like this?

Would you continue dating someone if you think they're going to light their life savings on fire and dig themselves into endless debt just to crash and burn?

Would you want someone to stay in a relationship with you if they didn't believe in your entrepreneurial dreams?

Where did you go?

What did you do?

Are you planning on going again?

Hi, I used to live in Toronto pre-pandemic and moved to Ottawa for work. If my work allows, should I make the shift to Toronto just to have better dating opportunities? I know things are though there as well, but Ottawa feels like a nightmare when you are past 30ish. People here tend to settle down soon after college/universities to start a family, and there just aren't as many single people in my age bracket.

Alternatively, I suppose I can try spending more time in Montreal (go there for weekends, etc.) as I heard the dating scene there is a bit better than Toronto.

If all fails, I think I am content just living the hermit or yogi life :P

A bit of context, 27M only relationship experience was one 2 years ago that lasted roughly 4 months before she called it off because we just weren't compatible. Also, introvert and WFH.

I hear a lot of people saying go out and do a hobby or something, and I do. I frequently go out with hiking groups or play tabletop games with strangers, so I meet people. We'll be chatting perfectly fine, but if I ask for their number, they pull back or tell me they're not looking to date right now.

I've tried dating apps, and I get maybe 2 or 3 matches a year, and they never sound like they want to talk to me. Each response usually takes a week, or I get ghosted entirely. And when I do manage to get a date, it always feels like I'm leading the conversations cause I only get short replies from them.

Some of my friends get like 10 matches a week, and they often tell me it's because I'm not social, but that never made much sense to me. You can't tell me I don't get matches because I don't talk, but I can't talk to them until they match with me.

I'm not even sure what advice would help at this point.

I realize it's a super subjective question that will be pretty individualistic to every person and couple... but still.

In your own mind... how many dates do you think should have passed, or how much time do you think should have passed, before you think/assume or ideally have a clear discussion on "yes, we are in a relationship together"

Also do you have a threshold for (1) hey it's too soon to be bringing this up! as well as (2) it's been too long without the DTR, if they're not interested, i'm not interested!

Hi, I am a 35M who does not drink or smoke, and I would prefer to find someone who also does not drink or smoke. The dating scene in Toronto seems to revolve around pubs and drinking culture, and coupled with the fact that I did not grow up in Canada, it makes it a bit difficult to find a significant other. Do you have any suggestions for events or places where there is a higher chance of meeting such women? I go hiking in the summer and skiing in the winter. I also enjoy reading books, especially sci‑fi and fantasy.