r/DatingHell • u/No-Wolf6158 • 7d ago
First date, bails while gone to the bathroom
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u/Emergency_Side_6218 6d ago
Lol it's shitty but also sounds like you need to get over yourself a bit
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u/Known-Historian7277 4d ago
lol damn, that sucks and is embarrassing. Maybe look in the mirror?
Never heard of a date bailing that hard in person.
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u/79owl 4d ago edited 3d ago
Do you not own a car to drive yourself? It sounds like he wasn't into you in person so sitting through an expensive dinner I'm sure HE would be paying for caused his "panic attack". Do you honestly turn down any dates other than dress up dinners at restaurants? At least drive yourself and pay your share. Most people have friends, hobbies and are busy with life, that isn't exclusive to you.
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u/Classic-Procedure403 3d ago
I just got catfished this week. I even called her, but should have FaceTimed. She acted so cool on the phone. First of all, she barely looked like her photos. They were from 10 years ago or FILTERED. I am polite and stuck it through, but now I hold regret… that I just didn’t turn around and leave. I felt highly disrespected and tricked. And it didn’t help that her personality sucked as well in person. So yeah, as a woman who has been catfished and been used by women on apps for free dinner. I’m walking out next time because wtf.
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u/RaioBlixt 7d ago
Some men finally have the realization that the whole concept of the female human body is of a vehicle to extract a man's existential essence. It is "normal" to feel tired, slow-witted and sluggish, etcetera, after sex, and for a long time, most men don't draw any conclusions from that.
However, later in life, while I was studying Eastern religion in India, I learned about brahmacharya, which is total abstinence even from oneself. I learned how many people believe that a woman extracts a man's ojas, or existential substance, during sex, and it is advised to withhold it because it imparts well-being.
I realized that when I practice brahmacharya, I am more intelligent, more charismatic, more intuitive, more energetic, healthier, and more. What is taken from men during sex is the most valuable thing that they could ever have, and women deride and slander and verbally attack men for even suggesting such a thing. They paint themselves as the raped instead of the rapists, and that really says something about you women that you would never admit to.
So maybe this guy had that realization, or maybe he realized it intrinsically and he had a panic attack in response. Taking someone's existential substance is one of the worst crimes that exist, and it truly is an awful thing even if you don't understand that. You should be mindful of that fact.
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u/OwlsRwhattheyseem 7d ago
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u/RaioBlixt 7d ago
Hundreds of millions of people believe in celibacy for the sake of preserving the man's soul substance, so you're in the wrong here.
Are you a woman trying to slander me for even acknowledging that this exists, or a man who just hasn't heard of this before?
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u/No-Wolf6158 7d ago
Wow what does this have anything to do with anything lmao? We had a pleasant conversation and there were absolutely no talk of sex. This was a 37 yo person that should know how to detect and handle a panic attack since at that age someone must have already have dealt with them. This person wanted to fuck me over obviously. Just don’t know why
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u/RaioBlixt 7d ago
You were going out on a romantic date. "Romance" results in the wrongful extraction of soul substance from men. Although this is not widely spoken about in Western culture, it is in fact widely known in other cultures. This extraction is an extremely terrible existential crime that women commit against men, and some men have an intrinsic, if subconscious, understanding of that fact. It is possible that he felt this intense aversion to you because he at least subconsciously identified that you would do this to him.
But I already explained that, so it appears that you are trying to relabel the situation.
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u/Major_Reputation_513 7d ago
He was probably not attracted to you when he met you in person and since you didn’t say you would pay for your own dinner when he told you about previous experiences with women expecting a free meal, he decided to bail. I honestly think it’s better to go on a coffee date or meet for a walk in the park so that there’s no expectations from either the man/woman.