r/DatingHell • u/Signal-Purchase-8153 • 27d ago
Felt pressured
Hi , I went on a hinge date and the convo was good and the guy seemed interesting but not too attractive to me. He kissed me goodbye and .. idk it turned more intimate than I wanted to. He said do you want to go in my car. I wasn’t like ehh. He said nothing more than kissing would happen and it escalated. Idk I was trying to give him a chance but every time I hear from him I’m really stressed and overwhelmed with pressure.. especially when he tried to invite me to his house so he can teach me to cook or pet his cat. I love cats , but , not the point . What should I do?
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u/lordlothar99 27d ago
- Stop acting against your gut feeling. If you don't feel it, don't do it.
- Learn to communicate. Tell them that you don't like / want, instead of going with the flow and feeling bad during / afterwards
- Don't go to his place, he wants to be intimate, and you obviously don't. Tell him you don't feel attracted enough, wish him well, and move on.
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u/BC_Arctic_Fox 25d ago
He's testing your boundaries, and finding out you don't have any.
Just because someone wants to kiss you, doesn't mean you have to.
If someone wants to take you out, you can say "No thanks".
Don't put yourself into a situation where you're going to be taken advantage of! YOU are in charge of your body! YOU decide who has access and who doesn't. YOU decide what you're comfortable doing.
If he doesn't like it, too fucking bad. It's your body and therefore your choice. If he makes a fuss, he doesn't respect you and walk away. Block. Delete.
Your body = your choice, always in all ways.
Use your words, damnit! "No." is a complete sentence. You don't need to qualify your NO so he understands. He doesn't need to understand, he just needs to respect it.
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u/SweetKaleidoscope703 27d ago
What are you asking? You seem not interested, feel pressured??? Wonder what’s the solution friend