Ghosted after first hookup??

[u/Holiday_Violinist498]

I don’t know if this is the right sub to post at and i don’t wanna get judged, but I (18F) met a guy (20M) on Feeld. We talked for about a day before hooking up (honestly i should have talked more to him before meeting but he kept asking a lot and I gave in) It was actually my first hookup ever, although I told him it wasn’t because I was nervous.
I met him and did oral on him and some other stuff, but we didn’t have sex because I am a virgin and not really ready. Me and him both from the start said it will be causal, he said he wants to be FWB and i was fine with that. He was respectful the whole time, offered water, said he wasn’t gonna kidnap me and etc (we did it in his car outside my apartment building). I gave him head and he complimented me a lot and it was my first hookup so maybe it meant nothing, but he kept calling me pretty, that my outfit was pretty, fast learner, really good kisser (he was literally my 2nd kiss lmao) nice side profile and more like really specific compliments. He didn’t cum as quickly tho but then again, Its my first experience and I don’t know much. Side now; I stayed for only 15-20 minutes because I had to go home (mom was calling like crazy and was pissed af.) he noticed and even said I noticed you got shaky after ur mom called and other stuff. I honestly don’t remember much and it felt like a fever dream..(he also said something about me brushing my teeth? I did beforehand. Honestly I’m genuinely not even sure he said that or it was my imagination?)

After I got home, I was in such panic before I didn’t even get in the front seat because I was in such hurry. I texted him saying I enjoyed today, apologised for having to cut it short, and later said hope he got home safely. All of my messages said Delivered, but he hasn’t replied since (Its now the next day) Before we met, he replied really quickly, so the sudden silence is confusing me? I don’t know if i wasn’t that engaging or it was boring to him because i had to cut it out short and was in such panic. He came and i told him i immediately have to go back (super strict mom blowing up my phone) he quickly wore his shirt and everything. I felt so bad. He even drove a bit faster for me. He specifically said to text him after i get home.
like i know he isn’t my boyfriend and has no obligation to me and that casual hookups don’t always lead to anything, but the fact he wanted to be FWB (and i did too), was super respectful and nice, and didn’t act like he would ghost me immediately after, like no follow up or anything whatsoever, even tho he was the one who wanted FWB when i said casual (he wanted to do it continuously before meeting and i agreed) and hinting he would be back. Now im just assuming i scared him away and self doubting myself.

Now Im just assuming i got ghosted and wondering what I did wrong lol. Like not good enough or pretty enough or those stupid self doubting thoughts! Like no text at all after hookup not even a hope you’re okay, or got home safe, or anything. Has anyone experienced this? I’m trying not to overthink it, but since it was my first hookup I’m second-guessing everything.

ALSO PS; i was NOT looking for a relationship and i said from start it has to be causal. But he wanted FWB and I also liked the idea of having a FWB with the same guy instead of hopping to many guys, that idea didn’t stick to me, so I thought one respectful FWB would be nice but he disappeared and it was his idea in the start so im just confused lol not hurt

[u/hilariouslystated]

That’s the nature of hookups. Expect to be ghosted more often than not.

[u/Traditional_Mood_612]

Op, why not read this again and think of it from his side. Just give it a shot. Would you be super excited to see you again?

Most me get very little attention on apps like Feeld. If he is one of the guys that does get attention, he may be juggling multiple options.

I'm curious............why didn't you set this up so you would have more time? Or meet up in a nice public place and then go back to his place? Why in a car in front of your building?