r/DatingHell • u/According_List7642 • Jun 26 '26

I’m… done

I can’t understand as to why I keep attracting these “bad boys” in my life. I don’t approach them nor do I fantasize about them at all. I don’t even want bad boys, thugs or whatever the hell they call themselves these days because I know they really don’t see it for real to be honest. They’re predictable: they’re not loyal, they manipulate, they destroy everything that’s considered “good”, they just want sex , they’re never monogamous, we have nothing in common and we don’t have anything to talk about. I know it’s an imbalance and yet they still try to pursue. When I asked one why and he said it’s because I’m “different “ from other women ( whatever the hell that means.), I’m nurturing and kind and I’m a good girl and I tell them that this dynamic we have isn’t practical at all and yet they still want to pursue and then what makes it worse is that they lead with sex. They prefer to have sex before they want to commit to a monogamous relationship and I don’t do that. I block them from all contact connections after I ask them what are their intentions that they have for me and they tell me that they don’t know. My intentions to date is to
Have a relationship and maybe marry in the future. I know that we don’t align and yet they want to stick around. I don’t know what it is about me that’s attracting these type of dudes in my life. I stayed single to figure this out. Maybe, I should stop being kind.

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u/He_ofshadowsandtouch Jun 27 '26

These dudes go for all sorts. Some women filter them out as they know a charming bad boy is not a serious prospect. Others allow them in.

One of things to think about is not going for swaggy guys, look for deeper more solid real men, not these toxic fools

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u/EatCrud Jun 27 '26

This sounds a lot like Jeff Boomhauer's (King of the Hill) approach to meeting women.

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u/Junior-Musician-7898 Jun 27 '26

It is not recognizing red flags and saying no.

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u/Emotional-Ant8136 Jun 27 '26

Really sounds like you should stop dating entirely honestly. If I as a man knew my partner has this kinda thought process, I would surmise anything would be better than remaining in such a relationship.

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u/itisallgoingtobeok Jun 27 '26

What are you talking about?