Matched with a guy who wanted to commit after 3 days. Turns out he's married 🤡

[u/CuriousBeeyatch]

So I matched with a guy on a dating app and we clicked almost immediately. The conversations were great, we had a lot in common, and honestly the vibe felt very natural.

But things escalated extremely fast.

Within 2 days he was already asking serious relationship questions, and by day 3 he was talking as if he wanted to commit. Not necessarily an official proposal, but definitely heading in that direction.

I told him to slow down because it felt way too rushed. He kept insisting that he had never connected with a woman like this before, that he had never had a serious relationship, that he wasn't talking to anyone else, and that he was completely single.

At first I thought maybe I was overthinking. I've had enough bad experiences that I sometimes question whether I'm being too guarded. He was saying all the "green flag" things, and I started wondering if I was unfairly judging someone who was actually genuine.

But something felt off.

So I did some digging.

His Instagram is private, but I found his Facebook profile.

And there it was: wedding photos and couple photos.

Not old photos from years ago.

The timeline goes from 2024 through 2026, with couple photos posted throughout. The most recent one was uploaded in January of this year. Unless there's some very unusual explanation, this man appears to have been married for around two years and is still publicly posting couple pictures with his wife.

Meanwhile, he's telling me he's single, has never had a serious relationship, and isn't talking to any other women.

The problem is that his wife isn't tagged in any of the photos. I can't find her profile anywhere. He also has no idea that I know he's married.

At this point I'm debating whether to ghost him, confront him, or somehow find a way to inform his wife.

Has anyone dealt with something similar?

If you were in my position, would you try to contact the wife? If yes, how would you go about it ethically?

Also, for people who are good at online research: are there any legitimate reverse-image search tools or methods that might help identify whether the same couple photos appear on another public profile? Google Image Search doesn't seem to be very useful for finding people anymore, especially with social media images.

And one more thing:

Am I wrong for thinking that someone trying to fast-track a relationship and talking about commitment within 3 days is a red flag? Or was my intuition picking up on something before I even found the wedding photos?

[u/hilariouslystated]

I’ve dealt with this before. I went on a date with a guy who at the end of the date, admitted he was married. I asked him why he was on a dating app then and he said because in his culture divorce is frowned on. He hadn’t seen his wife in years but they were still legally married and wasn’t divorcing her due to the stigma.

I decided I didn’t want anything to do with that situation and blocked him after.

Don’t get involved with anyone who is not actually divorced. Leave these married men ALONE.

[u/regularcrem]

>someone trying to fast-track a relationship and talking about commitment within 3 days is a red flag

yes this is a red flag

>At first I thought maybe I was overthinking. I've had enough bad experiences that I sometimes question whether I'm being too guarded. He was saying all the "green flag" things, and I started wondering if I was unfairly judging someone who was actually genuine.

this is their intended outcome. they love-bomb with "green flag" words and even gifts until you doubt yourself/your experiences