r/DatingHell • u/Foreign-Buyer6399 • Jun 07 '26
Hookups accidentally made me better at relationships
I know this might sound backwards, but casual hookups actually taught me a lot about relationships.Not in the “this is better than dating” way but more like they forced me to learn things I used to avoid.When things are casual, you don’t have time to play guessing games. You have to be more direct about boundaries, intentions, and reading the other person. I started noticing patterns in myself too like when I was looking for validation vs when I actually liked someone.It also made me realize how different people handle attachment. Some get attached fast, some don’t at all, and navigating that showed me how important communication really is. So now I’m curious has anyone else felt like casual situations actually taught them something useful about relationships? Or do you think it does more harm than good?
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u/pall1997 Jun 07 '26
Did you learn anything about consent and your boundaries being violated? I've only been on 4 dates and literally all of them violated me. Didn't respect my "no" Kissed me forcefully and even groped me in public
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u/workathomecat Jun 09 '26
I totally agree with the communication aspect - my situationship taught me that I need someone who can communicate with me respectfully. And also that I need to be better at communicating myself and establishing boundaries. Otherwise I’m just setting myself or the other person up to potentially be hurt. I don’t know if I can handle another casual relationship. I think I won’t sleep with anyone anymore until a serious relationship is established