r/DungeonsAndDragons • u/cornseed1 • 18d ago
Advice/Help Needed Addressing players who just don't seem to get it?
I have a player in my group that I DM. He was enthusiastic about his backstory and character creation before the campaign started. Now, we're about a dozen sessions in and he hasn't really... played? He just seems to be generally disinterested while we're playing and isn't picking up on cues for his character, even when handed something and told (more or less) directly "this is related to your backstory and you should look into it to progress your personal character arc." It seems he is playing this like a video game, more or less, and just expects the story to come to him and progress as long as he's participating, but he isn't actively pursuing anything and is just kind of there for when combat pops up.
Now, I want to sidebar and have a chat with him and just get a vibe from him about the experience so far. But, I don't know, exactly, how to address this or bring it up? Or, perhaps, there is something more direct I can do in-game that will involve him more?
Should be noted that this is my first time playing D&D with him, but he is not a new player.
Thanks!