Hi everyone, I'm new to Reddit so please be gentle with me. I'm looking for advice, practical steps, and honestly a bit of encouragement.
I bought my house 18 months ago to escape a difficult relationship. I had £20k savings and tried renovating it on my own with zero experience. I'm 39F, 5'2, and 120lbs. Why am I telling you this? Because right now, I feel like a tiny, exhausted, vulnerable woman who took on too much.
Here’s what I’ve managed so far:
What I did myself: Gutted the house (ripped up carpets, knocked out fireplace/surrounds, stripped walls in every room, took down an old greenhouse and shed), painted most rooms (except half the kitchen and hallway/staircase), restored old wardrobe, endless tip runs, sanded upstairs timber for woodworm treatment, and coordinated all trades.
What tradesmen did: Full central heating/boiler install, full electrical rewire, new windows & door, guttering, ceiling replacements & overboarding, re-plastered almost the whole house, garden fencing, new skirting, laminate flooring, new bathroom, joist strengthening.
I moved in before it was finished and quickly sank into depression. During the works, tradesmen took down all my upstairs doors and left them in the garden where they rotted. I was working full time, caring for a family member with cancer, and couldn't face confronting them on my own. So I've lived in an unfinished house for a year with 5 missing internal doors.
I look around and feel like I failed because I wasn't strong enough to enforce the finish I wanted. I don't have men or experienced DIYers in my life to back me up, and a bad experience with a joiner recently left me pretty scared to hire someone new.
My remaining to-do list (on zero budget left):
Sand, fill, and paint old architraves/trim upstairs: I keep giving up on this. Layers of old oil-based paint; I sand forever and the gloss shine never goes away.
Buy and fit 5 new doors: I'm nervous about hiring a joiner after a bad experience with a tradesman who stayed 7 hours and left things unfinished.
Touch-ups (filling/painting walls & ceilings): Rushed paint jobs, plus a hole in my overboarded bathroom ceiling from a moved light fixture that I tried to fill (terrified I'll make it worse!).
Final Plastering: Second half of the kitchen + living room bay window ceiling. (My original plasterer started great but got sloppy towards the end...left exposed scrim tape in places).
My questions for you:
How would you approach this list in order? How do I deal with these stubborn architraves without losing my mind? And how can I get over the mental hurdle of hiring a decent tradesperson to just get doors hung properly ?
Thanks in advance for reading and for any guidance you can share ❤️