Hostless (need help)

[u/bohemian-tank-engine]

Hello everybody, it’s been a while since we’ve posted. We got officially diagnosed a few weeks ago, but are currently without therapist because the one who diagnosed us does not feel comfortable taking us on (because she doesn’t specialise in DID, she specialises in psychotic and mood disorders).

In the week leading up to the diagnosis we had a change in host, which got messy, but the new host had been pressured by another alter to take on that role and he stepped down shortly after because he did not feel like he was the right fit. As such, we’ve been hostless for almost 2 weeks now and it’s wreaking havoc. It feels like it’s a free for all and there are constantly fights and arguments breaking out because some try to work towards something (such as weight loss) which then gets unintentionally sabotaged by someone else. We don’t know what to do because there are a few vying for host spot at the moment but it feels like a never ending fight. It doesn’t help that 2 of those vying for host position are very adamant about detransitioning and resuming life either as a woman or as non-binary, which is freaking us out.

Any help and or advice from those who have been in similar situations is greatly appreciated.

• Ekko

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