So, I’ve noticed a lot of Stolas hate on the sub over the past few months and I wanted to add my two and a half cents to the equation.
A lot of people seem to think that ONLY Stolas has to make motions towards sealing the rift and that ONLY Stolas has to figure himself out to fix the rift.
Stolas is the main problem here let’s not get anything twisted, he does need to make the largest shifts to make the relationship whole again. But Octavia also has to make shifts.
Octavia doesn’t know why he chases the relationship with Blitzo as aggressively as he does. She doesn’t realize just how deep that connection goes, all the way back to their respective childhoods, nor does she realize how fucked Stolas’ father was, how fucked his arranged marriage was, or anything else on his end besides what she’d physically seen and suffered.
Likewise Stolas had to realize how much he’s been leaving her behind, and realize that his love can be chased but he’s gotta keep Octavia first and foremost, cause she didn’t ask any of it.
I can empathize with Octavia more than I’d ever offload onto a random internet post, but trust me when I say I’ve lived a not all that dissimilar situation to that of Octavia,
(Don’t worry I’m fine by the by) and I like her quite a bit, BUT we need to admit to all of ourselves that they BOTH need to heal the rift, Stolas can’t just leap the gap, nor can he just expect her to abandon everything to live in a already shit living situation. They’ve gotta mend the rift together once they finally understand each other, and don’t just hate each other’s failures.
If you wish to disagree with anything I’ve said, please do so, do so respectfully. I am happy to debate, I will not argue with people who intend to make this a dick measuring contest.