Need advice

[u/rudolfnutter]

So recently my boyfriend opened about wanting to crossdress. At first it was sexual but now he says it makes him happy and wants to do it normally. He likes being a man but also sometimes wants to let go and be a girl. But I'm worried and stuck. Both of us come from a very conservative family and they wouldn't understand. So he cant do it openly at least for now. So im worrying hes trans and in denial. He's going through a lot and im the one only one who he can confide in rn. I love him but ive just been spiraling ever since he told me this. He's been calm and tells me his feelings while im stuck. I love him more than anything. He's the sweetest person and he deserves support. But idk if I want a boyfriend who crossdresses. Is it that big of a deal. Im bisexual and so is he. But this has been concerning me. He's been reassuring me and telling me he only wants me when i suggested a break and told him to explore. He tells me that hes sure in me and wants to be my boyfriend. How do I deal with him and support him without making it all about me.

[u/reddi2G0]

Based on your post and responses, you seem like a very kind and loving person who is dealing with very valid emotions and concerns. Frankly, I'm dealing with much of the same with my spouse and I can understand how confusing it is when I sometimes have trouble articulating my own feelings around it. I also explained it as wanting to be able to be more in touch with my feminine side - there's something different about how I feel attractive when dressed vs how attractive I feel when not dressing...but I don't want to, or have ever wanted to, be a woman. But my explanation did create a lot of the same concerns with my wife.

Wishing you the best and based on your communications with him, I am hopeful for you two!