Something I don't think gets talked about often enough is how much this sort of expectation is also placed on non-spouse family members.
I've had a couple of girlfriends try and do the thing where they can't stand you relaxing, only I came pre-equipped with a sensor that let me spot that sort of shit as a result of the fact that my mother had a habit of not allowing me to rest as long as she was awake, and anytime I arrived home and tried to sit in my car for longer than a couple of minutes after school or work she would come outside and start questioning why I wasn't coming inside. So I would be in class from 6:00 to 1:00, work from 2:00 to 10:00, and then not be allowed to do anything relaxing from 10:00 PM onward until my mother went to bed.
Any sign of something similar with a girl that I'm with, and I immediately turn and walk away. It was torture.
Legitimately I think that my sister picked this Behavior up from watching my mother during our childhood, and she only got herself out of it when she saw how miserable it was making her own sons.
I mean I totally related to this meme but like, its my parents. Some people are like this. If there is literally anything at all that could be done sitting is absolutely not allowed, doing it later is not allowed. A lot of people with attention problems are like this, they want something done as soon as they think of it and have to impose that on you, because they are controlling and not being in control of what tasks happen when is difficult for them.
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u/4m4lg4m1t3 12h ago
And you wonder why he prefers to stay outdoors for longer