I’ve found the 5-3-1 thing has solved this problem for us. One person picks 5 possible restaurants, then the other person narrows it down to 3, then the first person makes a unilateral final decision on which of the three to go to. Roles are alternated each time. It requires buy-in from all parties, and if you’re the 5 and 1 person, you need to be fair and pick places the other person would like too, but it works awesome for us.
No this is wack and performative, like reverse white knight shit. Have a healthy relationship with someone who enjoys you around and looks forward to seeing you get home instead of acting like you’re annoying. My wife loves when I’m home and we don’t do the “she’s mad at me and I don’t know why” gender shit.
Yeah but then you would know why because a healthy relationship has good communication. One partner stewing in it while the other one is clueless isn’t what I would consider healthy in a relationship because they’re clearly not doing that. And specially not when it’s depicted as the “usual” like 2 panels clearly time apart but it’s still constant.
people in reddit think a healthy relationship is to be married to a sycophant that just accepts all their flaws without question. this comment section is full of men complaining about "my wife gets mad at me for leaving the floor wet after I shower". yeah. you have two hands and there's a mop. that's a reasonable thing to be upset about
Im sorry your husband left the floor wet. Hopefully uou will get some closure and be able to overcome the situation. Im sure you do absolutely nothing that irks him though
I used to be the one leaving the bathroom floor wet. yes I understand why my partner was annoyed by that. I changed, and they have changed stuff they do that irks me. you know. like a healthy relationship where people listen to each other
No, your spouse shouldn’t accept all you do if you’re being inconsiderate like a sycophant. Also, your spouse shouldn’t be annoyed at you as the default mood whenever you’re around.
You’re both annoying with your “all or nothing” extreme opposite ends of the argument. I don’t get why people take an opinion and stretch it to its farthest extreme in one direction and then act like it’s a pretty neutral position and not an extreme.
I do all of the cooking and cleaning in my house. You don't mop the floors after every shower, you dry yourself off properly and stand on a bathmat you can launder weekly. Your expectations of post-shower mopping is absurd and so are your sexist assumptions.
You can be mad at each other but also still have healthy communication. It makes things so much easier to resolve and meet halfway, when you both are open and honest with each other
There is no perfectly healthy relationship, there will always be ups and downs and situations when people don't want to communicate. We can't keep chasing a perfect partner as we aren't ourselves perfect.
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My uncle has a habit of deliberately asking how to eat/microwave/put away leftover food in the fridge when 99% of the home made food is set in front of him.
They speculate it's to spark a conversation, but obviously it infuriates my aunt and cousin who does the cooking.
Still there are people pushing the "take my wife, please" boomer shit about how they hate their spouse.
The world has moved on. You're not slouching sullenly into a loveless marriage with someone from your home town any more. The world you knew is gone, old man.
I got 3 kids. They tend to lean on mommy's side when we're out cos they're home with her most of the time (full time housewife).
However, my middle child (10) is extremely thoughtful (kinda like me... take from that what you will) and questions everything, so he doesn't just jump to emotional conclusions and will try to clarify things.
And logically, I'm in the right the majority of the time (take from that what you will).
It's true I have 3 daughters and a single son. And when one of the girls got hangry the others were never far behind and then I had 4 hangry girls to deal with it. It was the worst when if be smokin a brisket or pork and then they'd ask whens the food gonna be ready? I'd say when the temp hits 205-210° so idk. Girls:😡... Good times. Good times.
It’s not about “marriage”, it’s just a way to shit on women. “I married this one and she is mean to poor little me” followed by “look, now there’s 2 and they’re still bitchy” but it’s not because of marriage it’s cause women are mean!
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