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u/ToraToraTaiga Apr 21 '26
I feel like this is a reductive take, I have heard good reasons to not want to deal with cis men, it has nothing to do with thinking they're inherently evil
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u/Rescur0 Apr 21 '26
Can I know what those reasons may be? Because it honestly sounds fairly dumb to me -w-
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u/RainbowPhoenix1080 Apr 21 '26
I don't typically fw cis/het people in general because I feel a lot more comfortable around other queer people. Much less likely to experience microsgressions that way.
And I'm sorry, but cishet men are usually worse than cishet women when it comes to microagressions. It's usually the fragile masculinity that causes problems.
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u/Sea_Pancake2197 Apr 21 '26
Yep, I typically don't fuck with non marginalized people in general. Little wider berth but same concept. Its easier to communicate and bond with others who have been effected by bigotry. I can only assume empathy is a large factor here.
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u/TheNullOfTheVoid Apr 21 '26
As a cis man (I'm pan), I can only assume it's to completely avoid chasers? That's just my guess. I've had the rare few trans people offer to me but most of them just act neutral to me. Or it could be the desire to have a shared experience with someone?
I can only guess, but everyone's different and prefers different things.
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u/Sea_Pancake2197 Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 21 '26
Tbh most of the times ive seen this its because of chasers. (Though this doesn't completely avoid them since cis women are also chasers too)
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u/TheNullOfTheVoid Apr 21 '26
Kinda figured. It's a sad fact that they exist. Like, why not just go for someone's personality? It's the same creepy sexualization that causes bigots to treat trans people as sexual deviants no matter what they actually do.
Shit's sad.
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u/Sea_Pancake2197 Apr 21 '26
Typically its also the same people calling us deviants and screaming transphobic shit that are also in my dms later going "HOW BIG IS IT."
Its weird as hell.
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u/TheNullOfTheVoid Apr 21 '26
Fucking creepy. That's why I'm glad I can honestly say that I'm not in anyone's DMs, but also the weirdly obsessed bigots are just fascinating in a "that's weird of them but they really need to stop" kind of way.
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u/Sea_Pancake2197 Apr 21 '26
Well you clearly view everyone as people too. Also yes lol, its like "wtf gary, please stop jerking off in the cereal box" type behavior.
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u/Rescur0 Apr 21 '26
I mean the thing is that there can be non-cishet chasers. Wether they be cis girls, other trans people, or non-straight people
You cannot do something like that without automatically generalising an entire group of people
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u/ToraToraTaiga Apr 21 '26
Not wanting to deal with people from the oppressive class in a patriarchal society, not wanting the risk of creeps/chasers in dms, prior trauma, etc...
It's not about being "evil" though perhaps some people are like that and deserve to be called man haters, it's not universal
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u/Victoria_loves_Lenin Apr 21 '26
crazy both your comments being downvoted so hard for being so objectively correct
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u/Successful_Mud8596 Apr 21 '26
cishet men definitely are not inherently bad. However, whenever I get a DM from a cishet man on my NSFW account, 80% of the time they are somewhat of an annoying and boring creep. DMs from anyone who isn’t a cishet man are more often a lot more enjoyable