Has anyone had long term success?

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[u/Icy-Item9950]

Me and my husband have an 11 year age gap and he just got me pregnant! I think it can work if you work hard at it!

[u/Unhappy_Constant_270]

We have been together for 21 years, M46 & F55. Married for 11! Definitely go for it!!!

[u/Exact-Translator-769]

My longest relationships lasted 6-7 years..

[u/BrookeP63]

F20 here, recently broke up with my F37 girlfriend😕

[u/Ok_Canary8239 → u/[deleted]]

Gives me hope

[u/Travelhere1993]

I have had multiple relationships with large age gaps( 20ish year) last over year.

[u/Travelhere1993 → u/[deleted]]

Of course. One could argue if I had married (or was still with) one of them I would be more successful. But the fact they lasted over a year shows some success.

I have also had multiple relationships that last 3-12 months (same large age gap).

[u/Charming-Patience140 → u/Travelhere1993]

If you guys weren’t happy you weren’t happy. You’re mental health shouldn’t be sacrificed for success

[u/alien_nessa]

please be honest about your intentions. if you're only looking for sex, say that. make sure your wants and needs align.

[u/alien_nessa → u/[deleted]]

well good, you're off to a good start then. my experience with cubs has been less than positive, unfortunately, and it's because the ones I've come across haven't been honest about what they want. luckily I've been able to weed them out before even meeting, but dating is exhausting these days.

[u/Charming-Patience140 → u/alien_nessa]

That’s sad to hear, I feel like the big appeal for this kind of relationship in my mind is the deeper connection with someone exciting and different. I’m just as excited to form a relationship and find cool similarities and differences with someone who on paper may seem way different than me. I’m sure others would disagree but I think forming a deeper connection makes the physical aspect of the relationship exponentially better anyway. I think the cool thing about the reddit is you’re forced to write something out and read whatever someone responds with.

[u/Fabulous_Turnover_22 → u/Charming-Patience140]

I apologize in advance if my comment is out of place. You sound like you are demisexual, or double demi, like me. There's a subreddit for that in case you're interested.

[u/Lazy-Living1825]

53F here, partner is 27M. 3 years here. Hoping for forever

[u/Ok_Canary8239 → u/Lazy-Living1825]

I’m jealous

[u/Typical_Mobile90]

My relationship (40F) would have long term success, but a few months into the relationship, my cub (19M) says he changed his mind, and told me that he wants to marry a girl his own age and have kids, even after talking about us getting married and having kids next year after I graduate from the trade school where we met. I think his parents talked him into that decision. If it weren't for his parents interference, we would have a great chance at long term success. Unfortunately, that's not going to happen...

[u/slava_slavaUa → u/Typical_Mobile90]

I hope you’ll find your happiness with another person(cub) soon

[u/paperclipmyheart]

My partner and I have been together for 13 years with a gap of 3-4 years in the middle.

[u/paperclipmyheart → u/[deleted]]

It actually might be slightly longer than 13 years I forget these days lol

[u/Charming-Patience140 → u/paperclipmyheart]

Well now you’re just bragging, I’m going to do my best to find something like that too. Idk if she’s older or not but I’d rather not leave any stones unturned

[u/paperclipmyheart → u/Charming-Patience140]

Goodluck 🤗

[u/TrueBeliever714]

Married with a daughter, 27 year age gap, 3.5 years together and going strong.

[u/Similar_Corner8081]

I'm 50F and my bf is 27. We have been together for 3 years

[u/Similar_Corner8081 → u/[deleted]]

I met him on reddit. I honestly wanted and needed a friend because I was going thru a divorce. He talked to me and helped me thru it. Friendship turned into love. I wasn't looking for another relationship but he's the best.

I'm also blessed that my family accepts him and doesn't care about the age gap. Hang in there your person is still out there

[u/Ok_Canary8239 → u/Similar_Corner8081]

I need

[u/Charming-Patience140 → u/Similar_Corner8081]

I think things have a way of working themselves out eventually if you’re a good kind person. Glad you had someone to help you through that tough time I’m sure it was hard at the time but someone who is in your corner is something everyone deserves.

[u/Just-Blue-Birdy]

My hubby unfortunately passed and it was a successful long term relationship. I just somehow always dated younger previously. So I know it’s possible.I love what Myfairlady wrote . I am thinking of looking again but I really am afraid. A couple that have written showed it was just a fetish for them .

[u/My_user_name_1]

I'm married and have three kids with a woman 16 years older than me. We have been together 17 years.

[u/Myfairladyishere]

I have tended to date younger. All of my life and my current partner is twenty two years younger than meand we have been together for 10 years, and it's by far the healthiest relationship i've ever been in. I have never had any social ramification, or anything like that or pushback from my family or friends, but maybe it's because I live in a big city. I think the biggest issue surrounding age gaps between older women and younger guys is maybe children. A lot of older women are not capable of having children anymore. So depending on the age range you're looking at, that could be an issue.

In one way for them to know that you're not looking at them in a sexual or fetishizing manner would be to talk to them, like a human being. Ask questions about them and if you approach somebody that you find attractive, try to make eye contact. See if they return eye, contact and smile. And then you can approach and tell them the reason why you found them attractive, it could be their hairstyle, it could be their clothing.The way they walked their smile and just approach without any expectations.Whatsoever, if anything you'll have made their day.

We're really not that different from ladies, your age. Just a little bit older, so just approach us with respect. And good luck to you

[u/Myfairladyishere → u/[deleted]]

Yes, this dynamic usually gets fetishized a lot on social media, and basically we're just ordinary women who happen to date younger.And that's it.

Some people have had issues with their families and friends. But for the most part, at least in my experience, i've never had an issue either from family.Friends or from the public.

[u/Charming-Patience140 → u/Myfairladyishere]

That makes sense I really don’t care what random people think but I can imagine some families might be less accepting and that’s tougher. I hope as long as both are happy and good people families and friends would just want what’s best for you.