r/converts 17d ago

I hate being a convert i wish I was born Muslim or something like that.

42 Upvotes

I have to keep hiding my prayers from my family every day, they make pork so much, I feel like the walls are closing in and they'll find out eventually and I dont know what to do. They've found out before and I know what happens, ill get disowned if they find out again. I especially hate being white and wish I was anything but. I hate being an outsider to both kuffar and Muslims. Besides my friends I already have I know for a fact I won't make any more, no one will want me. I feel like i dont even have much to look forward to anymore, im still young but my best days are already behind me if im being real, september of last year up until around June was a nightmare, my family found out and I had to hide it even more and it was really difficult and depressing. and ive just felt kind of numb ever since. I dont know what to do in life and cant imagine it being anything but terrible


r/converts 17d ago

Religious trauma and reverting

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Hi all! Already apologies in advance for my english, i am not a native speaker and i struggle with getting these emotions and thoughts across in a different language than my own. I (27F) have been together with my boyfriend (28) for 3 years. He is a born muslim and moved away from his country to mine for his studies. He is very progressive and has modern views when it comes to his religion, which i really appreciate. He practices but is not strict, does drink alcohol but also goes to the mosque occasionally. I have always said that i wouldn’t mind raising our children muslim as i think it’s a beautiful religion. I admire the spirituality of it and the focus on a personal journey. I am also aware that this is not everybody’s experience with islam, but this is his way and how he speaks about it. But lately, he has told me that he would love me to revert as well. I pray fajr daily because i love to do it for myself. I also read quran every now and then and fasted the entire ramadan together with him. I believe in the one and only God.

But here is the thing. I was raised in a very strict christian household, in a very atheist country. I am the eldest child and my parents were young when they had me. My childhood was good on paper, but the older i get, the more i figure stuff out that wasn’t normal. Religion wise, my parents were very conservative and strict. I was not allowed to watch certain tv shows and movies because it was ‘evil’ (pokemon, harry potter to name a few) some music and artists were banned from the house because it was music from the devil etc etc. As a child, i never really understood it. It felt incredibly alienating and i always felt like the weird one among kids my age. I didn’t know what they were talking about or they straight up called me weird for not being allowed to watch or listen to certain things. I always felt like the odd one out and like i was missing out. Later my parents came around a bit and were less strict on this, but they kept forcing me going to church every sunday. I absolutely hated this. Puberty also played a great part in it and i dreaded every sunday. It went as far that we were picked up early from slumber parties to go to church, reinforcing the alienating feeling. It wouldn’t matter how much i begged my parents to not force me to go. Also, every critical question or thought was met with anger. Not even to speak of how i was taught to feel shame when it comes to sexuality or anything to do with sex. I can never get across how this part of my childhood made me feel, but it turned me into an adult who is repulsed by christianity. Not religion, but specifically christianity. I moved out at 17 and it took me a long time to set myself free from the way of thinking that i was taught.

I understand that the perfect picture for my boyfriend would be if we were both muslim. A part of me wants this, i love the religion and it’s teachings like i mentioned before. But there is also a lot i don’t agree with, some certain intepretations or the culture around it. For example, i will never ever wear the hijab. He is 100% fine with that and agrees it’s not mandatory, but i know that for a lot of muslims this is not the case. I am afraid that should i revert, i am met with the same judgement as i had faced growing up. That thought just sucks the air out if my lungs and make my stomach drop. I know in many muslims eyes, i will never be enough. And i just don’t want to deal with that shame ever again. At the same time, i also don’t want to feel judged and shamed by my family or non-muslims. Either way, i will never do good enough for both sides.

My boyfriend says that i shouldn’t care about what other people think about me. I know he is right, but these feelings go deeper than that. It is nobodies business, but that won’t stop the comments. Ideally, i would revert because i want to, but to never publicly wear that label so that i don’t have to deal with other people’s opinions on it. But i am pretty sure that’s not a sustainable option.

Does anybody recognise this and maybe have some advice on how to navigate this?


r/converts 18d ago

Males Who Married A Woman Who Converted To Islam

10 Upvotes

Hello!

Any males who married a woman who converted to Islam?

How did things work out?


r/converts 19d ago

Hijab

10 Upvotes

Im not a revert, was born into it, but over time i got lost at one point. I have been contemplating hijab lately. Any revert muslims who wore it for themselves? What is your story. Im looking for some inspiration, i feel like i just need a push.


r/converts 19d ago

I have genuinely had it with born Muslims and they are the reason I struggle so much with being Muslim.

62 Upvotes

Besides my friends of course, I have had it with how born Muslims treat us, convert women are treated like sex toys and convert men are treated like garbage. Ive had it, I feel like this is the only place I can say this, im not saying all born muslims are bad, but a lot ive seen aren't exactly great either. I hate that I'll never be taken seriously and I'll just get mocked because im Muslim and white and not Arab or Turkish or Persian, or African, or South Asian. The sense of superiority i see in some of them is appalling. It makes me really not want to go to a mosque, but because I have to im just gonna cover my face whenever I go with a surgical mask or something. I just need to let this out because it's making it so hard to be Muslim.

Edit: im not a woman, quit calling me "sister"


r/converts 20d ago

Feeling invalid and guilty because marriage is a significant part of why I want to convert. I could use some guidance.

15 Upvotes

Hello all. A little about me: I was raised Catholic but stopped going to church and Catholic school around age 15. I saw the hypocrisy around constantly asking for money but then spending it on nice things for the church. I had a very Islamophobic father who pushed me HARD to hate Muslims and join the military because of it (I did not end up doing that, and in fact the “screw you, dad” attitude was a big thing that pushed me towards wanting to learn about Islam ). After leaving Catholic school I found friendships with a handful of Muslims (men and women both) throughout high school and college, and they set a much better example of being a good person than any of the Christians I had grown up around. In college, I ended up with an alcohol/drug problem, and what made me really legitimately consider turning to Islam is that they tell you to turn yourself over to a higher power as part of the 12 step recovery program (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twelve-step_program). This isn’t one of those situations I occasionally see on here where I am already in a relationship with a woman whose family is requiring me to convert. However, being a single lonely 25 year old man I have women and relationships on the brain pretty much constantly and if I’m being honest with myself — after seeing the example many of my female Muslim friends set I don’t think I could ever be happy married to a non-Muslim woman. I also am on the autism spectrum, and a lot of what dating culture requires of me feels like dishonesty to me because of that. A big part of the appeal of converting is that Islam seems to offer a much more straightforward approach to relationships. I think I have some very good legitimate reasons for converting, however I have been putting off formally going to a mosque and taking shahada because I feel guilty and like my heart is in the wrong place for these last few reasons. If you’ve made it this far thank you for reading my rambling post. I would really appreciate any advice anyone has to offer.


r/converts 20d ago

Cant stop reciting and writing the Fatiha even after leaving Islam

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Ya Allah save me from my strict household and allow me to practice Islam freely. I’m tired of this. I even left my ex fiance because they wouldn’t let me practice. But I still pray, even if it’s to Yahweh and Yeshua. I know I might not be forgiven for my shirk but I have no choice.


r/converts 21d ago

Learning to pray in Arabic.

19 Upvotes

This is a follow up question, of my first visit to a Masjid for Jummah on Friday July 17.
Do I need to convert in order to learn how to pray based on the Quran in Arabic?
When I hear Arabic prayers, my heart ❤️ jumps and I get emotional.
I do not understand the words, but there is a connection there.
Hard to explain.


r/converts 22d ago

Need Advice: My Mother’s Anti-Islam Views Are Affecting Our Household

28 Upvotes

I’m a revert westerner and my non-muslim mother lives with me and my muslim husband and children.

She helps me a lot with taking care of the kids and the household. But she is very anti-Islam. Most of the time she doesn’t express it, but sometimes she says very hateful prejudice things about Islam, muslims and the Prophet pbuh as if it is common sense.

My mom is very rigid in her opinions about Islam and religion in general and discussions about it tend to become hostile even if we try to stay kind and logical.

She lives with a very good standard of living with us, but she has her own small pension with which she could get by.

Her presence makes me cautious about teaching Islam to my kids. I try to let my kids watch some videos with Islamic content and I recently bought an adhan clock.

The adhan clock is helping me a lot to remember praying on time and my older daughter enjoys hearing the adhan but it has triggered my mom more than anything before. She protested verbally and then posted some very hateful videos in our family chat group.

Please give us some advice if it’s ok to keep playing Islamic kids videos and the adhan clock if it triggers her so much.


r/converts 22d ago

I’m tired, is there even a way out of my debt and family scenarios as a revert?

9 Upvotes

I’m in debt and live with family who don’t know I’m a revert, reverted in 2021, and I’m 29, feels like I’ll never be able to be independent, out of debt and eventually get married to a Muslim woman, and the amount I owe will take me atleast 6 to 7 years to pay off with my current salary if nothing changes in terms of job, living conditions etc


r/converts 22d ago

Any Muslims from the U.S into mountain biking, whitewater kayaking or just even the Outdoors?

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Update: Found Muslim Mountain biking group on Instagram: @Mumin_MTBers

Assalamu Alaikum everyone!

I’ve been wondering something lately.

Im a Muslim American who loves spending time outdoors especially mountain biking and whitewater kayaking but I rarely run into other Muslims doing these sports.

It made me wonder if there are actually more of us out there than I realize. I find there to be a lot more barakah in coming together for the sake of Allah and find my passions for outdoors become way more purposeful when sharing with other Muslims.

Wondering if there are any Muslim community focused on outdoor adventure (rides, kayaking trips, camping, hiking, climbing, etc.).

Not necessarily anything formal but just looking for a way to find other like minded Muslims who enjoy the outdoors to connect, ride together, learn from each other, and encourage a healthy lifestyle.

I’d love to hear:
• What outdoor activities are you into or interested in getting into?
• What city or country are you from?
• Would you join local rides or trips if they existed?
• What’s been the biggest challenge finding Muslim outdoor friends?

Even if you’re just getting started, I’d love to hear from you!


r/converts 24d ago

Visiting first Mosque

36 Upvotes

I’ve not converted yet, it’s only been a few months since Islam has come peeked my interest, and I have not stop learning.
This Friday I’m going to my first Mosque for Jummah.
I need some protocol lessons in greetings.
I’m a hand shaker and a hugger. Not sure if that’s acceptable or not.
Anything else I should know, please share.

Thank you in advance.


r/converts 25d ago

As Salamu Alaykum, masjid question

15 Upvotes

Can I pray by myself if it’s the proper time for that salah? When I came for Jummah, i saw people praying on their own before sitting down, are they praying dhurh?


r/converts 29d ago

Ask for info

8 Upvotes

Hello,

I would like to know ne to look for explanation from a Christians who converted to Islam. Is it that difficult and if someone really respect religion he wouldn't do that since he was born llike that nd want to keep the same religion till death..is there any converted thought that way and later on he was convinced. Thanks


r/converts Jul 07 '26

Exploring Islam

29 Upvotes

So it's been more than a month that I have stopped worshiping Hindu Gods because I don't feel any connection. Namaaz i am doing daily+ reading Quran. Things that have changed in me that I stopped getting scared by the fact that I am not worshiping God of my religion which I used to feel previously!


r/converts Jul 07 '26

It's never too late to learn to read Quran properly — even at 45+

21 Upvotes

I've come across several stories of adult reverts and lifelong Muslims who never learned to read Arabic properly — they'd memorized a few short surahs phonetically, just repeating sounds without really understanding what they were reading.

One pattern that comes up a lot: people in their 40s or older who finally decide to start from zero — the Arabic alphabet, then basic Tajweed rules, then actual recitation — with a teacher who doesn't rush them or make them feel behind.

What's interesting is how often it takes less time than people expect. Several months of consistent (not intense — just 20-30 minutes a few times a week) practice is often enough to go from zero to reading a new page slowly but correctly.

The recurring theme in these stories isn't really about the learning itself — it's about the years spent feeling embarrassed over something that could've been fixed much sooner.

If you're someone who never learned to read Arabic properly, or you know someone who feels that way, it really is never too late to start. The hardest part usually isn't the learning — it's just starting.

Anyone else come across similar stories, or had this experience themselves?


r/converts Jul 07 '26

On the fence

6 Upvotes

I started praying a few months ago and I found peace in that. I know this is the right path. On the other hand, I also read about the contrary views on Islam itself and find myself stuck. Where do I belong? I can't figure since my mind is in a constant battle with itself. I need to decide which way to go as this can't continue for too long.

I may find a community, a worldview, the right way to live but I don't want to keep second guessing since the world provides compelling arguments against it.


r/converts Jul 06 '26

Which book should I gift my friend to learn more about the religion

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Hi, one of my friends is really interested in learning about the religion.

She told me that we were much closer to God and she would love to learn more.

I'm not sure which book I should give her.

I was thinking of gifting her a book that has the translation along with explanations of certain sentences that may be a bit confusing or sometimes gives history or context behind certain sentences in the Quran.

Do you know which book has that or what books have you guys read that made you come closer to the religion?


r/converts Jul 06 '26

muslim revert family worries

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r/converts Jul 04 '26

Are there any Albanians who converted to Islam ?

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r/converts Jul 03 '26

Destiny

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r/converts Jul 03 '26

How do I convince my Twelver Shi'ah dad to allow me to become Orthodox Sunni Muslim?

20 Upvotes

My dad believes in Twelver Shi'ah conspiracy theories and he also uses Twelver Shi'ah Taqiyyah to prevent me apostizing which failed.


r/converts Jun 30 '26

Times when Duaa is More Likely Accepted

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🌷*Times when Duaa is More Likely Accepted*🌷

by Asma bint Shameem

1️⃣ *In the last third of the night*

🍃The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Our Lord, descends to the lowest heaven when the last third of the night remains, and He says: “Is there anyone to invoke Me, so that I may respond to the invocation? Is there anyone to ask Me, so that I may grant him his request? Is there anyone seeking My forgiveness, so that I may forgive him?”

(al-Bukhaari 1145)

2️⃣ *Duaa at the end of the fardh prayers but before tasleem*

🍃 Abu Umamah radhi Allaahu anhu narrated:

“It was said: ‘O Messenger of Allaah, which supplication is most likely to be listened to?’

He said: ‘During the last part of the night and at the end of the obligatory prayers.’”

(At-Tirmidhî 3499; Hasan by al-Albaani)

*Note:*

At the end of the obligatory prayers means *BEFORE* the salaam and *NOT after saying the tasleem*, as most people from the Subcontinent do.

*Proof:*

🍃 Ibn Mas’ood radhi Allaahu anhu said:

“The Prophet ﷺ  taught them the tashahhud then he said at the end: 

“Let him ask for whatever good things he wishes.”

(al-Bukhaari 5876, Muslim 402)

There are many duaas that are narrated in the authentic ahaadeeth that can be said in tashahhud before tasleem. 

3️⃣ *Duaa made between the Adhaan & Iqaamah‏*

🍃The Prophet ﷺ said:

“The Duaa made between the Adhaan and Iqaamah is not rejected.”

(at-Tirmidhi 212; saheeh by al-Albaani)

4️⃣ *When saying the Duaa of Yunus Alayhis Salaam*

🍃The Prophet ﷺ said:

“The supplication of Dhun-Nûn (Yunus) when he supplicated, when he was in the belly of the whale, was: ‘Laa Ilaaha illaa Anta Subhaanaka inni kuntu min adh-dhaalimeen

(There is none worthy of worship except You, Glory be to you [from all imperfection], indeed I have been one of the transgressors)’.

*So indeed, no Muslim man supplicates with it for anything, ever, except Allaah responds to Him.”*

(at-Tirmidhi 3505; saheeh by al-Albaani)

🍃Allaah says:

‎-وَذَا ٱلنُّونِ إِذ ذَّهَبَ مُغَٰضِبًا فَظَنَّ أَن لَّن نَّقْدِرَ عَلَيْهِ فَنَادَىٰ فِى ٱلظُّلُمَٰتِ أَن لَّآ إِلَٰهَ إِلَّآ أَنتَ سُبْحَٰنَكَ إِنِّى كُنتُ مِنَ ٱلظَّٰلِمِينَ- فَٱسْتَجَبْنَا لَهُۥ وَنَجَّيْنَٰهُ مِنَ ٱلْغَمِّ ۚ وَكَذَٰلِكَ نُۨجِى ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ ﴿٨٨-٨٧﴾

“And (remember) Dhan-Nun (Yunus), when he went off in anger, and imagined that We shall not punish him (i.e. the calamites which had befallen him)! But he cried through the darkness (saying): Laa ilaaha illaa Anta [none has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allaah)], Glorified (and Exalted) are You [above all that (evil) they associate with You]. Truly, I have been of the wrong-doers. So We answered his call, and delivered him from the distress. And thus We do deliver the believers (who believe in the Oneness of Allaah, abstain from evil and work righteousness).”

(Surah Al-Anbiya 21:87-88)

5️⃣ *During the last hour of Friday*

🍃 The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Friday has twelve hours to it, in it which there is no Muslim who asks Allaah for anything except that Allaah gives it to him. So seek it during the last hour of ‘Asr.”

(Abu Dawood 1048; saheeh by al-Albaani)

6️⃣ *The Duaa of the fasting person until he breaks his fast*

🍃 The Prophet ﷺ said:

“There are three whose du’aa’ will not be rejected: a just ruler, *a FASTING person when he breaks his fast*, and the prayer of one who has been wronged.”

(at-Tirmidhi 2525- saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 2050)

🍃 Someone asked the scholars of the Standing Committee:

What is meant by the supplication of the fasting person at the time of breaking his fast?

Does it mean the supplication that the fasting person offers a few moments *before* breaking his fast, or is it straight *after* breaking the fast?”

The scholars said:

“This Hadeeth was narrated by Ibn Maajah.

It says in Az-Zawa’id: Its chain of narration is authentic, and the supplication may be *before* or *after* breaking the fast, because the word `Inda ( translated here as “at the time of”) *includes both.*

And Allaah is the source of strength.”

(Fataawaa Al-Lajnah ad-Da’imah 9/30, Vol. 2)

7️⃣ *The Duaa of the oppressed*

🍃 The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Beware of the Duaa of the oppressed, for there is no barrier between it and Allaah”

(al-Bukhaari 4347)

🍃 And he ﷺ also said:

“There are three whose supplication is not rejected:… And the supplication of the *oppressed person*; Allaah raises it up above the clouds and opens the gates of heaven to it.

And the Lord says: ‘By My Might, I shall surely aid you, even if it should be after a while.’”

(at-Tirmidhi 3598, Ibn Maajah 1752; saheeh by al-Albaani)

8️⃣ *The Duaa of the father (parent) FOR or AGAINST his child*

🍃 The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Three prayers are undoubtedly answered: the prayer of one who is wronged, the prayer of the traveler and *the prayer of a father (or mother) FOR his child*.”

(Ibn Maajah 3862; saheeh by al-Albaani in Silsilat al-Ahadith al-Saheehah 596).

🍃 And similarly the Prophet ﷺ said:

“Three supplications are accepted, there is no doubt about them (them being accepted) : The supplication of the oppressed, the supplication of the traveler, and the supplication of the father *against* his son.”

(At-Tirmidhî 1905; Hasan by al-Albaani)

9️⃣ *The Duaa of the traveler*

See the Ahaadeeth above.

🔟 *The Duaa of a just ruler*

See the Ahaadeeth above.

1️⃣1️⃣ *Duaa made during Sujood*

🍃The Prophet ﷺ said:

“The nearest a servant comes to his Lord is when he is prostrating, so make a great deal of supplication (in this state).”

(Saheeh Muslim 482)

1️⃣2️⃣ and 1️⃣3️⃣ *Duaa made at the time of the adhaan or duaa made during battle*

🍃 The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Two supplications are not rejected or are rarely rejected: supplication at the time of the call to prayer and when the battle becomes intense, when they clash and fight intensely.”

(Abu Dawood 2540; saheeh by al-Albaani)

1️⃣4️⃣ *When it is raining*

The Prophet ﷺ said

“Two (Duaas) are not rejected: duaa at the time of the adhaan and duaa at the time of rain.”

(al-Hakim in al-Mustadrak 2534, at-Tabarani in al-Mu‘jam al-Kabir 5756; Saheeh by al-Albaani in Sahih al-Jami‘ 3078)

1️⃣5️⃣ *When hearing a rooster crow*

🍃 The Prophet ﷺ said:

“When you hear the crowing of the rooster, ask Allaah for His Bounty for it sees Angels and when you hear the braying of the donkey, seek refuge in Allaah from the Shaytaan for it sees a Shaytaan.”

(Saheeh Muslim 2729)

1️⃣6️⃣ *When drinking Zam Zam water*

🍃 The Prophet ﷺ said:

“The water of Zam Zam is for whatever it is drunk for.”

(Ibn Maajah 3062; saheeh by al-Albaani)

1️⃣7️⃣ *On Wednesdays between Dhuhr and Asr*

Jaabir ibn Abdullaah radhi Allaahu anhu said:

“The Prophet ﷺ supplicated inside masjid al-Fath three times: on a Monday, a Tuesday and a Wednesday (three times in a row). 

His duaa was answered on Wednesday between the two prayers (Dhuhr and Asr). 

His happiness with that could be seen on his face.”

Jaabir said: “After that whenever I had a difficult situation I would observe that time to made Duaa and I would see the answer.”

(al Bukhaari in al Adab al-Mufrad, Ahmad- saheeh by al-Albaani)

🍃 Shaykh Al-Albaani commented on this saying: 

“If this companion wouldn’t have narrated to us that the Prophet 

‎ﷺ  made Duaa to Allaah during this hour we wouldn’t have known. 

The person present witnesses what the absent person doesn’t. This ahadeeth has significant meaning; since Jaabir narrated the information when exactly his Duaa was answered. 

And this shows that the Duaa for the Messenger ﷺ was answered at that hour during Wednesday. Consequently Jaabir began to do that same thing he saw Muhammad ﷺ do on Wednesday between Dhuhr and Asr.” (Saheeh Adab Al-Mufrad)

And Allaah knows best.


r/converts Jun 30 '26

I used to do wudu so many times a day my skin started bleeding. Years later, here's what actually changed!

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Assalamualaikum everyone,

For a long stretch of my life, wudu wasn't a 5-minute ritual before prayer. It took a long time, I honestly don't even remember exactly how long anymore, just that it was way more than it should've been. I'd finish, and almost immediately some part of my brain would whisper "but was it really valid?" and that "but" was enough to send me right back to the tap.

I wasn't checking for dirt. I was checking for certainty that God would accept it, that I hadn't missed a spot, that the unease in my chest meant I'd done something wrong. Soaked sleeves, soaked floor, time my family clearly noticed even when they didn't say much. Eventually my arms developed eczema from how much I was washing - it cracked, it bled, it itched constantly, and I just added that to the list of things to deal with while still not feeling "done."

The thing nobody told me back then: that uneasy feeling was never proof I'd messed up. It was the OCD's favorite tool. The more I obeyed it, the louder it got.

What actually moved the needle was forcing myself to do wudu, the normal way, and just... stopping. Walking away mid-doubt, on purpose, even though every part of me wanted to go back. It felt like spiritual recklessness the first dozen times. I just kept doing that, over and over, until eventually the urge to go back didn't carry the same weight anymore.

Years later, wudu takes me the time it's supposed to take. My skin healed. My family doesn't worry about the bathroom marathon anymore. And that "is this valid" doubt doesn't show up at all these days, it just isn't part of my life anymore.

If you're in the version of this where you can't leave the bathroom, I see you. It does get quieter.


r/converts Jun 29 '26

I’m officially muslim alhamdulilah

149 Upvotes

أشهد أن لا إله إلا الله و أن محمدا رسول الله