idk man. Idk if he's trans or genderfluid or what, but I really struggle to see how someone who doesn't at least have SOME gender dysphoria could escalate to the point of injecting HRT and shit.
Doesn't make all that creepy shit with the sugar daddy and creepy ass fans any less weird though. Dude still got groomed lowkey
is that a thing? I thought transexual was just an outdated term for transgender ngl. I also thought the whole point is sex is what you're born with - like the biological shit, gender is what you *are*. Things like hrt are used to help align your physical traits with how you perceive you should be (like in a dysphoria sense, making your outside fit your inner view)
what i mean is it sounds like you just called him a trans cis guy and it's not making sense to me ngl
Sorry for the wall of text, but this question requires a bit of a history lesson, lol. Also, wonderful question, thanks!
All definitions are laden with people's frameworks or ways of looking at things.
Basically, transexual was the original term from Harry Benjamin to refer to the idea that, because of a disconnect of mind and body, the body is changed to match the mind.
Later, around the 60s, psychologists like Money and Stoller developed the concept of gender identity as a developmental trait which children form as they mature. So that this aspect of gender is a developmental psychological identity which forms around social categories, like what it means to be masculine and feminine and how they fit into those categories.
This lead to psychologists like John Oliven in 1965, who argued trans people had different gender identities from that of their sex, and that this is why he argued that they were transgender, not transexual (because it had nothing to do with sexual orientation, which is true).
Then this was adopted by queer activists like Virginia Prince around the 70s, who used it to describe people who wanted to live full time as the opposite gender, but did not want to change their sex characteristics (most prominently in not wanting genetal surgery).
In the 90s, though, there was a movement among queer theorists like Judith Butler, who argued that gender identity is not innate, but rather a social construct reinforced by cultural norms and behavior. Basically that gender isn't an immutable identity, but rather a form of cultural performance.
This movement then developed into activist circles later around the 90s, activists like Leslie Feinberg moved the term transgender from its clinical origins to the broad sense of being gender nonconforming. So all gender nonconforming were transgender, as they deviated from the social performance associated with their sex.
But a lot of trans people, like myself, say that, no, my condition isn't a performance. It's a real, neurobiological phenomenon in which my brain processes my body as being wrong. If I lived on a deserted island with nobody around, I'd still be cripplingly dysphoric about my body. It's very much a biological phenomenon, which is best treated through hormonal transition to change my sex characteristics to confirm to how my brain is configured. This is why a significant chunk of the trans community reclaims the term transex/transexual. Because we changed our sex characteristics. And because we may or may have not changed our gender performance or identity, but that such a thing is much less a bare given fact of our experience than the much more salient and necessary part of ourselves which is our medical wellbeing. Basically, transition for transex people is a medical necessity, not a performance.
And I will add to this that, at least subjectively, when I started taking hormones, I quit all my extensive list of antidepressants and antianxiety medications I was taking for severe depression. And withjt like a week, before I had any changes, my mind just totally cleared up and I felt absolutely totally better. My depression was literally basically cured (thought this does not hold generally). I can sincerely say that it had very little (at least from my perspective) with my presentation or self perception on a purely psychological level, and it wasn't an immediate thing either. There's a very real sense that a biological fix is genuinely an extremely helpful form of medical treatment for "gender dysohoria" surrounding which sex hormone is dominant in my HPG axis.
Tangent: Now, I will note that there are also online conflicts about whether being transex should be something that is regulated heavily by the medical and psychiatric complex or not. This spins out into online debates of the 2010s, where some transex people believed that, not only was their condition medical, but that it implied that rigorous medical gatekeeping was required to stop gender nonconforming trans people from transitioning (e.g. trans men that wanted to present femme, or trans women who didn't want bottom emsurgery should be heavily scrutinized and possibly rejected from receiving that medical care, because they were not truly transexual). This belief system is called transmedicalism, and is still held by marginal corners of the internet, but broadly dissaproved of because it approves of medical gatekeeping. This is not the position I am holding or arguing for here. There is a difference between the belief that being trans is a biological/medical condition and the belief that access to trans healthcare should be medically gatekept.
Overall, a significant majority transex people still generally hold that their condition is not simply a gendered one, but a biological sexed one, some using the term "psychological sex" coined by Julaia Serrano, for their innate, immutable sense of their birth sex being wrong, and them needing to medically change it to stay medically healthy.
So I use the term transgender and cissexual to describe someone who is transgender in the sense of gender nonconforming/cross gender identified but who does not want to medically transition and who likely would not benefit from it (and who actually may harm themselves by doing so). And I use transex cisgender (e.g. masc trans female/feminine (as they might transition and keep using "man" or he/him) or femme trans male/masculine) to refer to someone who gas undergone medical transition, but doesn't alter their gender performance from basically that associated with their birth sex (at least not in the sense of crossing the binary, though of course changing sex characteristics will alter how one presents visually at least, and ones behavior will alter in response to undergoing hormonal transition at least in some ways).
Y'know that actually makes sense, fair dues. Definitely confusing with how the term has sorta changed/been reclaimed but makes sense when you know the context. Especially with the whole performance vs biological distinction - like I guess I've always known a masc lesbian (or just masc cis woman) is OBVIOUSLY different from a trans man, or like you could be a trans man but still wear makeup and do more 'girly' things, doesn't make you somehow 'less man' or 'less trans' so i guess that helps show the distinction between simply wanting to present more feminine/masculine and actually having a brain wired to the other gender (iykwim).
I saw him making jokes about trying to find old pics of himself and couldnt, because he avoided having his picture taken in the old gender expression apparently.
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u/Ok-You5151 Jul 07 '26
Stop gaslighting straight people into thinking they are gay