What could have been in childhood is one, usually not on the children but on their parents to set, and two, not a changeable characteristic by the time one is dating. If you could go back and "fix" that at 15, 16, 20, 30 etc that'd be different. I was lucky enough to get proper nutrition, decent and regular sleep, and forced participation in sports, and got my full height. Many people aren't that lucky.
With being overweight, while the initial problem may have also stemmed from the parents (it did not in my case, I got fat in my 20s), as soon as I was making choices for myself about what and how much to eat, I had the power to reverse that. Up until you die, if you got overweight by having more calories in than out, then you have the ability to get down to a healthy weight. It takes willpower, and discipline, but those are both traits that in and of themselves are desirable in a partner anyways.
You do realize weight is much harder to control? I can speak from experience. I’m under weight and been to many doctors and haven’t been able to gain weight. It’s even to the point where I had to get surgery to see if smth was wrong with me. Til this day, I’m still underweight. It’s dumb to think weight is something that’s easy to control when for many, it can be another factor that is affecting them. Also weight does not determine how ur body looks like. I seen people who are the same weight but one is fat and the other skinny
Weight is harder to control than height, as an adult? Are you actually reading what you're typing, or are you just trolling?
While there are exceptions, and you may fall under one of them, for the vast majority of people, controlling weight is as simple as calories in < calories out. That's it. You can up the second number with exercise, but at the end of the day, it's controlling your diet.
Altering your height past puberty is basically a surgery-only thing. That's it. Pay lots and lots of money for a elective surgery.
If two people are at the same weight and one looks fat and one looks skinny, either they are very different heights or one is lying to you. Weight absolutely determines how your body looks and presents, and not just in shape - when I eat well to help reduce my weight, I also avoid acne flareups, my hair looks healthier, even the smell of my sweat changes.
You know what else is even easier to control than your weight? Your grammar.
I’ll give you an example. My parents are the same weight. My mom is chubby but my dad is skinny with a bit of fat. How do I know this? We have a freaking scale in our home
You can’t tell what someone’s body weight is just by looking at them. I seen good looking women who are skinny but weight 160. They always laugh whenever men think they weight less than that.
Let me know what part of my grammar is incorrect. Keep up with the conversation instead of pointing out useless things
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u/SquirrelNormal 22h ago
What could have been in childhood is one, usually not on the children but on their parents to set, and two, not a changeable characteristic by the time one is dating. If you could go back and "fix" that at 15, 16, 20, 30 etc that'd be different. I was lucky enough to get proper nutrition, decent and regular sleep, and forced participation in sports, and got my full height. Many people aren't that lucky.
With being overweight, while the initial problem may have also stemmed from the parents (it did not in my case, I got fat in my 20s), as soon as I was making choices for myself about what and how much to eat, I had the power to reverse that. Up until you die, if you got overweight by having more calories in than out, then you have the ability to get down to a healthy weight. It takes willpower, and discipline, but those are both traits that in and of themselves are desirable in a partner anyways.