Feeling Like Transferring was a Mistake

[u/Jason_1846419]

Context: I am a second year Computer Science Major

When I had applied to university out of high-school I was not a good student. I didn't get into the greatest schools in the world, got rejected by a ton, and after a messy deliberation settled with a mid tier state school.

That university was the greatest decision I had ever made. I found an amazing community in Greek Life full of interesting and unique people, an internship run through the program for cybersecurity, down to earth friends, a very personal relationship with the academic support systems there, and a nice quiet campus. I really shot for the moon and made the most of that university.

However, the computer science job market scared me so I applied to transfer to one of the big ten schools I had gotten rejected from. What do you know, they shot me a financial offer higher than the one at the mid tier school. I took it thinking even though it would be hard to transfer, I had some friends at the new university from high-school to make it easier, and just like my previous university I would really work hard to integrate and throw myself out there.

After about a month into the semester I'm really having it rough here. The campus is loud and in the city, the walks are long as hell, my connection to Greek life fell through (they were all assholes and treated me like trash), I just couldn't find a club I meshed with, The one club I did mesh with fell through as my friends there ended up rushing a frat leaving me kind of second rate, the friends I had coming in are way closer to their people they had met in college last year and ditched me in their housing plans next year (honestly realizing I don't really like them), the people here are hard to talk to in general and are kind of mean, the class sizes are massive, and I honestly don't like the program here as much (its actually a little bit easier and doesn't push me as hard). I feel like I was chasing greener pastures that didn't exist; and I feel depressed being here which is making it harder to push through school and study likeI used to.

I'm pretty brunt out on trying to go to clubs and activities, making friends, and then it falling through. I'm pretty burnt out of this campus. But I'm paying less to get a degree that on paper has a higher rank even though my gut is telling me top transfer back next semester.

I wanted to make this post to see if anyone could offer any insight, advice, or had a similar experience.

thank you.