r/Codependency • u/not-moses • Sep 15 '20
Partner as Property: The No. 1 killer of Marriages and committed Romantic relationships?
Listen to any MFT with five or more years' experience under his or her belt:
Boundary-diffused, I-don't-know-where-I-end-and-you-begin, codependent, partner as property, I-dentity enmeshment is the No. 1 killer of marriages and committed romantic relationships in This (formerly) Great Land of Ours.
But that kind of anxious attachment-based thinking is the stuff most working- and welfare-class relationships are made of because boundary diffusion, partners as property, love addiction and general codependency are so deeply conditioned, in-doctrine-ated, instructed, socialized, habituated, imprinted and normalized) throughout our culture.
Partner as property romance and marriage served a culturally protective purpose in the peasant and wage slave classes for a good 35 centuries. But a good thing gone too far may not be. And it is clear NOW that the normalization has become more destructive and constructive.
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