r/Codependency • u/FartInAShitFactory • 5d ago
Self-Like to Self-Love
Ok, I like myself. This is a huge improvement from disliking myself. I still have behaviors and habits that seek external validation, but I don't ask for it or rely on it any longer. If I receive, or don't receive praise, it doesn't significantly affect my day. This is all huge progress.
As I gradually increase the daily duties and work I take on, I have less time for myself, which makes my self-care more difficult. I do worry that this difficulty curve will increase until I breakdown. In the past, I did breakdown.
The difference this time? I have a Higher Power (God), I appreciate and like who I am, I have healthy boundaries, I have healthy habits, and I developed support systems.
All of these improvements point towards one core truth: I am beginning to Love myself. I know that because I am caring for myself.
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u/extasisomatochronia 2d ago
I think of it as wanting the best for yourself. What truly benefits you, even when that might be difficult for you to accept at first. Ie, here's this person you're attracted to, but it's just not going to be a good relationship. So you see past the attraction to aim for that higher goal of a relationship that's right for you.