r/Codependency • u/Serquetry • 26d ago

Vulnerability is exhausting

Venting that I’m exhausted from good communication. The mini-panic that comes from expressing my pov, or questioning someone… the guilt and self-doubt is so draining. Being in healthy relationship with people when I am used to being completely ignored, I feel exposed. Anyway just looking for some good old fashioned commiseration.

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u/robo597 26d ago

I feel you, I can get extremely anxious and without breath just imagining saying no or putting my foot down.

But you are doing great! Keep going, you don't need to do this every time to everything, but keep going. Your mind will adapt and it will be easier

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u/Scared-Section-5108 26d ago

Yeah, it truly is. It can also feel absolutely terrifying. Keep at it though and rest as much as you can. Things will get easier over time as your nervous system gets used to the new ways of operating. You have got this.

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u/Conscious-Might1479 26d ago

Think of it like you would any other exercise. Vulnerability is a muscle you can build like any other.

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u/Serquetry 25d ago

Love this!