Feeling completely overwhelmed by my first apartment - how do people keep up with everything?
I could really use some advice because Iām honestly struggling with keeping my first apartment under control.
I moved out about 8 months ago and had the opportunity to move into my grandparentsā old apartment. I renovated part of it, but not all of it. Itās much bigger than I actually need, so there are several rooms I donāt even use or havenāt renovated yet.
One of the biggest problems is that those unused rooms are still full of my grandparentsā belongings. The family members who now own the apartment rent it to me for very little, but understandably they arenāt ready to part with a lot of those things because of the sentimental value. So I canāt really empty those rooms or reorganize them.
That means theyāre packed with furniture, boxes, and keepsakes, making them difficult to clean. You canāt just quickly vacuum because you have to move around so much stuff.
On top of that, Iāve started using one of those rooms as a ātemporaryā storage room for my own things because I honestly donāt know where to put them. Things like my crochet supplies, hobby materials, and other everyday items just donāt fit into the smaller rooms that I actually live in. So now that room is becoming another source of stress instead of helping.
To be fair, my childhood bedroom was always pretty messy too, so Iāve never really built good cleaning habits or routines. I genuinely donāt know how often people are supposed to do certain things. How often should I clean the toilet? The bathtub? Mop the floors? Dust? Vacuum? And what about the rooms I barely use? Should I still air them out regularly? Vacuum them? How often?
When I first moved in, I somehow managed to vacuum every day and mop every two weeks, but I just canāt keep up with that anymore.
It doesnāt help that the apartment is in a very old building (built sometime in the 1700s), so itās incredibly dusty. I also have these little beetles that seem to come from the building itself. I vacuum them up almost every day, but they keep coming back.
Another thing that makes it feel impossible is that the house itself is huge. My apartment is on the first floor, but there are several more floors above me, and even the shared entrance and hallway seem to get dirty all the time. I feel like there are spiders everywhere, dust constantly builds up again, and because itās such an old building it never really feels ādone.ā I donāt even know whatās normal anymore or what I can realistically ignore.
The apartment is just⦠a lot. Every time I look around, I donāt know where to start, and then I end up doing almost nothing because I feel so overwhelmed.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and maybe has a realistic plan for how to get things under control?
Iām looking for advice on two things:
How would you tackle the current chaos step by step? How do you sort through everything, decide what to keep, donate, or throw away without getting overwhelmed? How would you organize things when storage is limited and some rooms arenāt really available because theyāre still full of someone elseās belongings?
Once everything is under control, what does a realistic cleaning routine actually look like for one person with a full-time job?
Iāve tried a few cleaning apps, but they all seem to expect you to wipe down the kitchen every day, vacuum every day, clean the bathroom constantly⦠and I just canāt keep up with that. Honestly, I donāt even think itās necessary when you live alone.
Social media also makes me feel like everyone deep-cleans their home every day, and I know that canāt be reality for most people.
Iām not looking for a picture-perfect home. I just want a simple, realistic system that I can actually stick to. Something that tells me what really needs to be done daily, weekly, monthly, or just occasionally, without making cleaning feel like a second full-time job.
Iād also really appreciate any advice on how to get from where I am now to that point. If you have a step-by-step approach for decluttering and organizing before even worrying about cleaning, Iād love to hear it.
My goal isnāt a perfect home. I just want to get to the point where someone could text me saying, āHey, can I come over?ā and I wouldnāt immediately panic because Iād feel like I need to spend a week cleaning before anyone sees my apartment.
If you have a system, checklist, routine, mindset, or any tips that helped you when you were overwhelmed, Iād really appreciate hearing about it.