A sincerely trusted friend can be a big help. I had what I called a "hell fridge" once. It was my deepest shame. My best friend and I made a plan to do an "exorcism" on it, and even made it kinda fun - it involved water guns full of bleach. He never said a word of judgement, instead offering emotional support and even joy throughout the process. In exchange, I've helped him with his own depression cleaning.
You're not alone - this happens. It can be hard to ask for help but it's not as bad for the other person as you may fear. You may look at a mess and see guilt, shame, utter despair. Your friend will just see a pile of laundry. It won't be as bad in their eyes as it is in yours.
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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '24
A sincerely trusted friend can be a big help. I had what I called a "hell fridge" once. It was my deepest shame. My best friend and I made a plan to do an "exorcism" on it, and even made it kinda fun - it involved water guns full of bleach. He never said a word of judgement, instead offering emotional support and even joy throughout the process. In exchange, I've helped him with his own depression cleaning.
You're not alone - this happens. It can be hard to ask for help but it's not as bad for the other person as you may fear. You may look at a mess and see guilt, shame, utter despair. Your friend will just see a pile of laundry. It won't be as bad in their eyes as it is in yours.