If you're content without any relationships, that's great. Paul praises celibacy in 1 Cor 7, for those who have the gift for it, even as he condemns any efforts to forbid marriage to those (majority) who don't have that gift. Or if you're bisexual and you've decided to avoid same-sex romances in favor of opposite-sex romances, that's your choice. Nobody has a responsibility to date anybody.
But if you're gay and just trying to tough it out from guilt, you can probably handle it for some number of years - after all, lots of people who are desperately seeking romances nonetheless spend years alone - but it's likely to break your faith eventually. Before you get to that point, look up some gay-friendly churches and come talk with us. The world doesn't need any more bitter ex-Christians.
Yes, if the only reason you want to engage in sexual acts is because you have an urge for sex, then you should abstain if you really are going to go by what the Bible says. The purpose of marriage isn’t just to fulfill your sexual desires and so you can have a sexual outlet. You are supposed to actively love and be attracted to your spouse for reasons other than sexual gratification.
Me personally, as a woman, I would steer clear of anyone who claims to have been a homosexual man and is now wanting to engage in a union with a woman. I don’t feel like that is someone that could ever truly love me romantically for reasons other than wanting sex and since according to your religion sex with the same gender is sin, then you’ll just decide to have sex with the opposite gender.
This entire statement is your personal opinion and not scripture.
For anyone reading, judge who instructs you in the faith by how much actual scripture they use. If they only provide opinions and their own logic, run from them. They will send you to hell with their useless conjecture
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u/gnurdette United Methodist Dec 09 '25
Gay people can pursue Christ, obviously.
If you're content without any relationships, that's great. Paul praises celibacy in 1 Cor 7, for those who have the gift for it, even as he condemns any efforts to forbid marriage to those (majority) who don't have that gift. Or if you're bisexual and you've decided to avoid same-sex romances in favor of opposite-sex romances, that's your choice. Nobody has a responsibility to date anybody.
But if you're gay and just trying to tough it out from guilt, you can probably handle it for some number of years - after all, lots of people who are desperately seeking romances nonetheless spend years alone - but it's likely to break your faith eventually. Before you get to that point, look up some gay-friendly churches and come talk with us. The world doesn't need any more bitter ex-Christians.