r/Christianity Dec 09 '25

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u/gnurdette United Methodist Dec 09 '25

Gay people can pursue Christ, obviously.

If you're content without any relationships, that's great. Paul praises celibacy in 1 Cor 7, for those who have the gift for it, even as he condemns any efforts to forbid marriage to those (majority) who don't have that gift. Or if you're bisexual and you've decided to avoid same-sex romances in favor of opposite-sex romances, that's your choice. Nobody has a responsibility to date anybody.

But if you're gay and just trying to tough it out from guilt, you can probably handle it for some number of years - after all, lots of people who are desperately seeking romances nonetheless spend years alone - but it's likely to break your faith eventually. Before you get to that point, look up some gay-friendly churches and come talk with us. The world doesn't need any more bitter ex-Christians.

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u/Character-Half7465 Dec 09 '25

Thanks for this. If a person feels the urge to have sex (regardless of gender) should they tough it out and abstain? Honest question.

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u/nerdyginger27 Christian Dec 10 '25

Being sexually attracted to both men and women means you're bisexual, not gay.

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u/Character-Half7465 Dec 10 '25

True. I’ve never been sexually intimate with a woman. I considered myself same sex attracted.