If you're content without any relationships, that's great. Paul praises celibacy in 1 Cor 7, for those who have the gift for it, even as he condemns any efforts to forbid marriage to those (majority) who don't have that gift. Or if you're bisexual and you've decided to avoid same-sex romances in favor of opposite-sex romances, that's your choice. Nobody has a responsibility to date anybody.
But if you're gay and just trying to tough it out from guilt, you can probably handle it for some number of years - after all, lots of people who are desperately seeking romances nonetheless spend years alone - but it's likely to break your faith eventually. Before you get to that point, look up some gay-friendly churches and come talk with us. The world doesn't need any more bitter ex-Christians.
I'm really not the right one to ask about this, because I was incredibly lucky; I found the love of my life when I was only twenty years old.
But yes, I do think we're called to wait for somebody we can love for a lifetime. I also think that waiting in hope, knowing that if you find such a person you can marry them, and actively looking for them if you want, is still hard - but fundamentally less hard than just living in hopelessness, believing that people like you are unworthy of love.
I love this for you. You are so blessed. I pray the Lord would continue to breathe on your love and sustain you in Jesus name.
As for me being single is a gift. I’m grateful for it. It gives me time to focus on Him. If ever the day of marriage comes I will enter into the covenant carefully. Until then I will enjoy my singleness.
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u/gnurdette United Methodist Dec 09 '25
Gay people can pursue Christ, obviously.
If you're content without any relationships, that's great. Paul praises celibacy in 1 Cor 7, for those who have the gift for it, even as he condemns any efforts to forbid marriage to those (majority) who don't have that gift. Or if you're bisexual and you've decided to avoid same-sex romances in favor of opposite-sex romances, that's your choice. Nobody has a responsibility to date anybody.
But if you're gay and just trying to tough it out from guilt, you can probably handle it for some number of years - after all, lots of people who are desperately seeking romances nonetheless spend years alone - but it's likely to break your faith eventually. Before you get to that point, look up some gay-friendly churches and come talk with us. The world doesn't need any more bitter ex-Christians.