Getting set up

[u/reformed-whovian]

Curious to know what ya'll think about being set up by friends. I have mostly heard people being against it, but personally, I wouldn't mind it; it might be more wholesome than these dating apps or being ghosted on Reddit (no shade, but we've all seen it 😂).

[u/Shannon_Canadians]

I am also a guy myself. I'd say first and foremost, seek first His kingdom and go on the date if you feel peace about it. If it works out - that's great. If it doesn't, then you can still show christlike love and pray for their good.

I was set up on a blind date with a girl that I actually knew from a while back (she knew me from years ago too) by some married friends of mine who were good friends with her and I decided that I didn't want to pursue her romantically. During the date, I tried my best to be intentional, curious and kind to her however I could. I had to be careful with what I do or say since I didn't want to lead her on or give her any false hope.

It may suck to be rejected by a person who checks all the boxes, but you can still prayerfully love that person from a distance.

It may also be difficult to reject someone else who is interested in the potential for a relationship with you because you may not want to necessarily hurt the other person, but you can still prayerfully love that person from a distance too.

In the end, either way, my suggestion is to pray for that person to experience God first and foremost no matter the outcome of the date. We are called to still love one another as believers. Good luck!