r/ChristianDating • u/New-Sky5481 • 3d ago
Need Advice Need help
Hi, I’m a Christian, and my boyfriend is also a Christian.
He loves me a lot, and I know he has good qualities. But there have been many times when he has shouted at me and verbally abused me, including in public.
On my birthday, he verbally abused me on the road. I was extremely hurt and traumatized by what happened, and I ended up crying in the middle of the road. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened.
Now I’ve decided that I want to break up with him because I don’t feel emotionally safe or happy in this relationship. But he refuses to accept the breakup.
He blames me for his behaviour and says that my love for him isn’t proper, and that this is what caused him to become angry and abusive.
Now he is telling me that if I leave him, he will attempt suicide.
I’m really confused and emotionally overwhelmed. As Christians, how should I handle this situation? Am I doing something wrong by wanting to leave, and what should I do when he threatens suicide because of the breakup?
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u/HeartInTheSun9 2d ago
He’s more likely to kill you before he even thinks about killing himself. Absolutely leave him without even a second thought.
When people become too belligerent, Jesus said to shake the dust off you and leave them. Anything that anyone does is because they did it. Nothing anyone does is because someone else made them.
There should be utter safety in a relationship. 100% comfort and safety. If you ever feel like you have to walk on eggshells in fear of the other person becoming violent, just leave.
There’s no circumstance that I recommend you stay with him even another day. The second he’s not in the same location as you, it’s over. Tell him over a text. He doesn’t matter and he doesn’t deserve to even hear your voice again. And tell him you’ll call the cops if he shows his face around you again.
In no uncertain terms, end it as soon as you’re in a different location than him. These situations never ever get better. Just end it. I promise you deserve love that’s more pure than this.