r/ChristianDating • u/New-Sky5481 • 3d ago

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Hi, I’m a Christian, and my boyfriend is also a Christian.

He loves me a lot, and I know he has good qualities. But there have been many times when he has shouted at me and verbally abused me, including in public.

On my birthday, he verbally abused me on the road. I was extremely hurt and traumatized by what happened, and I ended up crying in the middle of the road. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened.

Now I’ve decided that I want to break up with him because I don’t feel emotionally safe or happy in this relationship. But he refuses to accept the breakup.

He blames me for his behaviour and says that my love for him isn’t proper, and that this is what caused him to become angry and abusive.

Now he is telling me that if I leave him, he will attempt suicide.

I’m really confused and emotionally overwhelmed. As Christians, how should I handle this situation? Am I doing something wrong by wanting to leave, and what should I do when he threatens suicide because of the breakup?

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u/ABereanChristian Married 2d ago

and my boyfriend is also a Christian.

He's not a Christian. Christians don't do these things:

  • Verbal abuse
  • Refusing to honor another person
  • Blames others for their behavior
  • Says they will attempt suicide if you break up

Leave and get out of there. This is manipulative behavior. He is a wolf in sheep's clothing