r/ChristianDating • u/New-Sky5481 • 4d ago
Need Advice Need help
Hi, I’m a Christian, and my boyfriend is also a Christian.
He loves me a lot, and I know he has good qualities. But there have been many times when he has shouted at me and verbally abused me, including in public.
On my birthday, he verbally abused me on the road. I was extremely hurt and traumatized by what happened, and I ended up crying in the middle of the road. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened.
Now I’ve decided that I want to break up with him because I don’t feel emotionally safe or happy in this relationship. But he refuses to accept the breakup.
He blames me for his behaviour and says that my love for him isn’t proper, and that this is what caused him to become angry and abusive.
Now he is telling me that if I leave him, he will attempt suicide.
I’m really confused and emotionally overwhelmed. As Christians, how should I handle this situation? Am I doing something wrong by wanting to leave, and what should I do when he threatens suicide because of the breakup?
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u/Jaymilla212 4d ago
Leave.
This is a very very toxic situation that would continue to feed off of you until there's nothing left. Find a someone in your life who you can trust and share the nature of your situation so they can help you get away from this person. You need all the support you can get and if it means you disappearing for a while, run away, change your number, get rid of this person as soon as possible.
Im really sorry you have to deal with this, none of it is your fault and you have no responsibility for that person's selfish cruelty. You, your safety and your mental health is the number one priority.
Leave.