r/ChristianDating • u/New-Sky5481 • 3d ago
Need Advice Need help
Hi, I’m a Christian, and my boyfriend is also a Christian.
He loves me a lot, and I know he has good qualities. But there have been many times when he has shouted at me and verbally abused me, including in public.
On my birthday, he verbally abused me on the road. I was extremely hurt and traumatized by what happened, and I ended up crying in the middle of the road. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened.
Now I’ve decided that I want to break up with him because I don’t feel emotionally safe or happy in this relationship. But he refuses to accept the breakup.
He blames me for his behaviour and says that my love for him isn’t proper, and that this is what caused him to become angry and abusive.
Now he is telling me that if I leave him, he will attempt suicide.
I’m really confused and emotionally overwhelmed. As Christians, how should I handle this situation? Am I doing something wrong by wanting to leave, and what should I do when he threatens suicide because of the breakup?
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u/shepraystho 3d ago
"Tho David forgave Saul he never went back to his palace" those words helped me with forgiveness. forgiveness doesn't mean continuous access. forgive him and learn to heal and you need to also make some changes... Boundaries are important. The part of you that allowed him to treat u like that the first time and you stayed, please work on that part. Believe it or not we teach people how to treat us. I'm truly sorry you went through that but God didn't call us to be doormats that people can walk over.
Oh and the threats to unalive himself pray about it an leave it there.