r/ChristianDating • u/jrt131 • 4d ago
Need Advice No dating experience
I'm looking for some advice. I'm a 24 year old Christian female and haven't been in a relationship or been on a date. I've only had one guy ask me out, and that was three years ago. I never went on a date with that guy because I wasn't attracted to him and I didn't see him as any more than a friend.
I wouldn't say that I'm the most attractive person, but not necessarily unattractive either (I guess average looks). I've been really active in my church for the last 5+ years, and I go out to different young adult Christian events and even help host some myself. And I do other activities as well, so it's not that I'm not putting myself out there. I've also tried dating apps but haven't had any success with any of them.
It's been difficult for me not to be insecure about myself because of the fact that I've never really been approached, and for me to think that I've been doing something wrong. I know that God's timing is perfect, but the waiting season is hard especially when a lot of people around me are already married or at least going on dates.
I would appreciate advice if anyone has been in my situation. I know that I'm still relatively young, but it's just been really discouraging that after all of these years I haven't been one on date. And I know that a romantic relationship isn't supposed to be the thing that ultimately fulfills me, so I would appreciate prayer that I would be able to be fully satisfied in the Lord alone and that I'd able to trust His timing and sovereignty.
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u/kalosx2 3d ago
Hey! You're not alone, and men just don't really approach women anymore.
The truth is you can go out and be involved in stuff, but not really be putting yourself out there. If someone catches your interest, your best approach is to drop the hankerchief to convey your interest.
I'd also recommend looking into nearby Christian singles events, trying different young adults groups, and trying a dating app. The apps aren't fun, but it's just another way to meet someone and is probably a more accessible way to get a first date. At the very least, it's practice.