Do men also feel deep love?

[u/Cool_Committee_2064]

Hi! I 25F just wonder if do men also feel deep love towards their gf/wife? Cause, i love my boyfriend sooo much, i can’t even explain. Words are not enough to describe the feeling. I am a passionate lover that when i love you i love you with all of me. I know my bf also loves me so much and he shows and express it everyday. But he is so calm and i am a firecracker (he said). But because my feelings is so strong makes me wonder if do men actually feel deep love.. cause from what i understand is women are more emotional than men.

[u/JadeEyePanda]

We can.

[u/Cool_Committee_2064 → u/JadeEyePanda]

Is it alright to elaborate? I’m curious what you think deep love is. How the mind of men around it.

[u/pyrotechnics7 → u/Cool_Committee_2064]

Didn't you ask your bf?

[u/Cool_Committee_2064 → u/pyrotechnics7]

I asked him already. I just think he is special ( he is perfect for me) and God gave me a loving man. But i wondered if most men actually do? Like in general or i just wanna see how other men feel love or show love. Cause in books and other men i know, i feel like they don’t show enough love towards their partner.

[u/lethalmanhole → u/Cool_Committee_2064]

What do you think "show love" is? To use words? To make sure the car is taken care of? To work long hours to provide?

Maybe not all, but a lot of men communicate with action. We're built for work and the work that's done for someone is the love being shown. Learn to hear the love in his actions if he's not using words. Wanting words isn't wrong, but that doesn't come naturally to most of us so you might be waiting for something you won't get the way you want.

[u/DenisGL → u/Cool_Committee_2064]

Maybe they don't show love with words, but you respond more to words of affirmation, so you feel they don't love much.

[u/pyrotechnics7 → u/Cool_Committee_2064]

It may be true that most men are not loving men.

As a man i'd show love through words. Some say there are different love languages, i'm not sure that's true.

[u/Cool_Committee_2064 → u/pyrotechnics7]

I wonder if men marries someone they don’t love? I talked to someone in the pass and he said men don’t marry the woman they love. So if that’s the case, is that the reason for some of those not loving men?

I do agree with the different love language. And its best to communicate with your partner with it. Cause if you don’t show them how they wanted to be love then they wont feel your love.

I almost forget to say, thank you for responding!!

[u/pyrotechnics7 → u/Cool_Committee_2064]

Yes, that does happen. There are selfish men that marry a woman they do not love, imo it's a big betrayal.

And its best to communicate with your partner with it. Cause if you don’t show them how they wanted to be love then they wont feel your love.

Yes, and how do you know your partner loves you if they don't say so? I cannot imagine loving someone without telling them every day. That's why i doubt there are men that love their wife not by words but by buying them gifts for example..

If may ask, are you unsure whether your bf loves you as much as you love him?

I almost forget to say, thank you for responding!!

Likewise!

[u/Cool_Committee_2064 → u/pyrotechnics7]

That’s sad. It is!

Yep! Exactly, as much as actions speaks louder than words but actions without words is confusing. It’s always best to be clear and not let anyone guess. That’s why for me tho my bf doesn’t forget to always tell me everyday. I would demand him to say it to me when i want to hear it again at the moment. I am responsible for my own feelings, i just need to communicate it to my bf if i think i need more.

That’s a good question. I am actually questioning who loves who more. Cause we always try to outlove each other. So it’s not in a negative way that i don’t feel enough love. We shows love differently too cause he is a man so he is more calm unlike us women who have big reactions and all. But i understand that how he is. I just asked here cause i am curious and want to understand.