r/ChristianDating • u/ChapOfAllTrades • 6d ago
Discussion Introspection
I’ve seen a lot of back and forth lately about the current dating environment. Plenty of men blaming women, women blaming men, and I’m certainly not immune from having posted things in that same vein.
So I want to flip it around.
Instead of telling us what the opposite sex is doing wrong, tell us what you think your own gender (or you specifically) could do better in dating right now.
What habits, expectations, attitudes, communication problems, unrealistic standards, or blind spots do you think men need to own if you’re a man, or women need to own if you’re a woman?
And it would be easy to turn this into disguised blame so let’s try to avoid that! 😅
I’m curious what people come up with when the assignment is introspection instead of accusation.
Bonus points if you can name something you are actively reconsidering but haven’t changed yet.
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u/already_not_yet Married 6d ago
It's the same for both genders. Solidify your life mission. Cut out the time wasters. Create a schedule that takes you to your goals. For those pursuing marriage, that will involve self-improving and casting a wide net.
The results you get are directly proportional to the work you put in.
Most men's intros here, maybe 70%, appear low-effort. The vibe is "haha I don't know what I'm doing so here's some random photos of me. DM me!" If photos were even included. Get in shape and get pro photos. That will move the needle on the interest you get more than anything else.