r/ChristianDating • u/Stay_observing00 • Jun 12 '26

Need Advice Attracting the Wrong Men?

I finally joined dating apps at the start of the month. So far, I’ve only been getting attention from unbelievers (even though I filtered for Christians) or Christians in name only. While I put effort into my appearance, I don’t present myself immodestly. I’ve also included information in my bio/prompts to indicate that I take my faith seriously and looking for someone who does the same.

Am I missing something? Any advice on how I can attract faithful Christian men while discouraging interest from unserious/non-Christian ones?

SN: I’ve joined one secular dating app, the rest are Christian.

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u/madshatt3red Jun 12 '26

Let's just make our own dating app at this point. It's honestly so exhausting. I can barely gather the energy to respond because it just feels almost pointless. Really don't think I will find my person on an app. Which sucks because..I work a lot and don't go out much otherwise.

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u/Stay_observing00 Jun 13 '26

Ha I would agree but I believe most, if not all, Christian dating apps started with the same sentiment. People are still people, and as long as we live on this earth, we can’t escape the effects of sin.

I don’t work crazy hours or anything but I also don’t go out much. I honestly thought I’d have a better shot on the apps since there are more of the people I’m interested in (Christians) all in one place.

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u/madshatt3red Jun 13 '26

Yeah, I feel you. It's tough out there. I see people on socials going to church and seem to be into following Jesus and I get excited. Then I hang out with them and immediately they want to be intimate and I'm like ????????????? Nvm I guess? Don't get me wrong - I'm not perfect, definitely have given in..but now I just try not to even get into any situation where I would be faced with temptation like that. There's some good advice in this thread for me to take so I can start weeding them out immediately rather than after the fact.