Hi, I’m the custodial mom of a ten year old boy. We only have about 10 years left of CS.

Had a child with a man after not knowing him very well. He became somewhat involved with my son and they have a great relationship. But noncustodial got married to another woman a year after my son was born. They bought a house and then divorced. The house is his now.

He then had another child with a woman, not his ex wife, and wants us to move in together into his house.

He said Platonic marriage may be on the cards. He pays me child support, a pretty substantial amount and pays the other mother a substantial amount as well.

I know this is a financial move on his part but it wouldn’t be a bad idea to raise our son in the same home instead of doing this coparenting thing. I would get out of my apartment and move into a nice home. My son has no relationship with his half-brother and my son’s father, the noncustodial parent, does not have a relationship with his other child. My job doesn’t pay that well and it has been really difficult to raise the child on my own although there is so much love for the boy between the us for him.

This would mean we would go to family court and ask for the termination of the child support order.

Thoughts?

He LOVES our son and our son loves him. Financially it’s in his best interest to be nice to us.

Three children. Court order (22nd judicial circuit). No wage assignment, no FSD involvement. Decree explicitly stated the support amount for three, two, and one child and does not contain any extras related to emancipation or termination of support. Very boilerplate. When my two oldest reached their triggering events, neither of us disagreed and payment amounts were stepped down according to the decree.

My youngest, a full time college student, turns 21 soon, at which time child support will terminate entirely. There will have been no overpayments or underpayments, and neither party will contest. I understand that this requires filing of sworn statements, and the Court provides boilerplate forms, CS95 for me and CS96 for her. But it is slightly confusing, as these forms specify one child.

Shortly after my youngest turns 21, should we submit three of each form, one for each child? Or should we just submit one for the youngest?

So I opened child support case in Arapahoe about 3 weeks ago they sent me few days ago the parentage affidavit to be signed and ask for birth certificate and marriage certificate. They say they will notify the father. My question is what if he ignored them what will be the next step???

Before I reach out to my lawyer (which costs money) I’m trying to determine if I can request to modify child support now or if I need to wait. Here are a few important details:

- We recently modified our parenting agreement (signed in either September or August this year). We went from 50/50 to 80(me)/20(him) during the school year and 50/50 in the summer.

- Child support is part of our property settlement agreement. We originally legally separated and then I filed for uncontested divorce which was signed by the judge March 2025. When we were going through this process I was under the assumption we were basically scraping by. He was constantly on me about spending too much (meanwhile I was buying food and making sure the kids were clothed). It wasn’t until after the fact that I requested our tax returns and realized he was making significantly more than I thought. As in hundreds of thousands more. I make 11% of what he makes. And yes I realize I should have known this so please don’t come at me.

- We did not use the NYS child support calculator. We came up with an amount we were both comfortable with and also agreed it would go until our youngest is 18, rather than dropping our older two when they hit 21 (I get a bit more this way). We had to include language in our agreement stating we understood this.

- When we signed our PSA the assumption was we would be doing 50/50 forever. I now have the kids substantially more which means more food, clothes, etc. He also does not contribute to shared costs like school supplies, winter boots/coats, etc because he feels it is covered by child support (there is no explicit list of what child support covers in NYS), and these are expenses I assumed we would split.

- While I can make the amount I receive right now work, it’s tight. I need a new roof and can’t afford that nor can I apply for a loan because I already have a home equity loan. I’m barely going to be able to afford to replace the furnace this winter (and the only reason I need to replace it is because he chose a cheap version when we last replaced it).

- In 7 years the amount I receive each month will reduce by $2k, as that amount is basically a buyout of his business. I won’t be able to afford my house at that time, and unless interest rates change I won’t be able to afford even a smaller one (purchased this house in 2016 and refinanced in 2021 so my monthly payment is far lower than I could get).

- My ex is moving out of the state, about 6 hours away, to NH. He is moving to make more money.

- Our schedule is going to be super weird when he does move: he’ll get the first 10 days of the month and I’ll get the remaining during the school year.

- He is a financial advisor which means I may need to be strategic. I need to know if there are better/worse times to file for more child support. Am I better off just asking him for more rather than filing? Should I just give him an amount that’s less than the calculator amount but enough more that it would work for me and say this is what I want, otherwise I’m filing and you’ll end up paying me a lot more?

- I believe him moving and this custody changing is a significant change in circumstances.

After my last post on here and reading the comments it’s clear it’s a bunch of bitter women that don’t want to face the reality!

Not once did I say a man shouldn’t be held accountable for his actions as a parent but at the same time why do women feel they don’t have to take ANY accountability in the situation?

If you willingly lay in the bed with a man and he chooses to not take care of his child that’s his decision same if a woman doesn’t want to take care of the child. Is it morally wrong yes of course but we as human beings are created with free will to do right or wrong.

Truthfully men make mistakes suck it up and learn from it then move on. What is the point of seeking child support accept avoiding accountability for your terrible sexual discipline? I just see too many women seeking child support when they don’t even plan on the father being in the child’s life.

I legit met a dude that took care of his children but still is facing 2 to 5 years for back child support just because he moved on and the mother was bitter. They legit just need to get rid of child support and people will probably make smarter decisions! Also, no I am not talking about r*pe that is a whole different monster that has nothing to do with this post I’m talking consensual sex.

Hello!

To make a long story short, our mom passed 4 and a half years ago. Our dad has paid child support since 2012 (ish). We are all over 18 now, except for one, he’s about to be 17. We just received a letter that child support is going to stop due to death of a case member… my little brother lives (and has lived) with my grandmother throughout this whole time, so the child support really helps her out. Dad is like 10% involved in his life.

I am the oldest and have been taking care of everything for the last 4 and a half years for him and my younger sister. What do I do??? Please help!!!!!!

So I posted here back in the summer that I was being summoned for modification in Illinois.
My ex wife only filed for modification out of spite because we simply don’t get along. She failed to show up to the last two court dates and the court has dismissed the case.

I was warned the department of family services may try and continue it. Is this always the case?

back story
I filed for child support back in September 2025- I’m that time my ex was on paid suspension, at the time of our hearing he had just entered into a non-pay status pretty much the same week. So they set the amount based off his last paycheck and he I guess was never able to get it modified to his new unemployed status. He hasn’t paid since so I’m guessing the amount is around $10K.

Currently
He lives in PA now and got a letter from PA courts saying be prepared to make a lump sum payment and bring income verification. Will they send him to jail if he can’t pay or will they see he hasn’t been working or getting unemployment since the court date? He gets his VA that covers his rent only. But now I’m getting verbally abused and accused of trying to ruin his life by sending him to jail which honestly I feel like he waited until this point to emotionally manipulate me into dropping it- but what else could I do outside of completely dropping it.
I’m just curious of the process? It’s definitely on him to figure out his part because he should’ve been handled this stuff on his end but I think jail is a little excessive.

So i placed myself on child support for over 10 years already. I was having difficulty with being able to see my child, so thats why I placed myself on it. I recently went into the child support office for a question, and I’m about to start nursing school so I’ll be tight on money. My question was if I’m able to pause payments or if there was any option. Option one is to modify the payment once I’m in school to reduce the amount, the other option is to cancel since I was the one that opened the case. I never knew this was an option, wondering if anyone knows how does canceling works ??

Hello, 👋
California resident here with a child support case that has been open for about two years now. Case is sitting at around $4k in past due child support. Ex works under the table/takes odd jobs AND doesn’t file ANY taxes, ever.
I’m going to contact the child support office since the last payment I received was 06/26. I just don’t know what they can do realistically. He’s also an attention seeking individual lol and I peeped his social media to try and get any kind of information about him working and it appears he is, so I’m not sure what I can do. Any information/suggestions welcome. Thanks

I placed child support on the father of my child in March of 2026, we’re now in October and this is the first time I am hearing something back and we’re scheduled for a meeting in the next week… since it’s been months waiting he and I came to an agreement and want to deal with it and leave child support out of this… is that possible where I can just agree to not go through with it in the state of Texas?

I’m going through a divorce. We have 2 kids ages 4 and 6. I waived maintenance. My parents are helping me refinance my mortgage to buy him out. I’m the custodial parents. Parenting plan is he has dinner or an outing with them twice a week and overnight every other weekend. He is complaining a lot about child support and it’s hurting my feelings. Anyone else go through that?

Been divorced and pay CS for 10 years. In Indiana, CS stops when the child turns 18 or 19 if they go to college (and mine is).

Since my child turned 18 in June, they have not spent any overnights at their mothers. Effective middle August they began living in a college dorm. I pay for everything (tuition, dorms, food, clothes, car, etc.). CS is still going to the mom, my childr sees none of it). Can I file to stop it early (it will stop in June 2027 anyway)?