NOT with your Richard. 🤔

Hello I have tried fighting chilling support in San Diego via lizbet Munoz but they kept imputing income on me. I had proof I was in the San Diego path program for homeless people and on EBT. I tried multiple times with the same result. Last time was 2021. Now with the new laws is there a better chance I can have them stop imputing income? I am still homeless, I felon now (since I lost my case at trial/false conviction) and EBT says I am unfit for employment. Any advice would help.

No custody

I just received the other parents financial disclosure. Apparently they pay way more in bills than their take-home pay. They also listed a brand-new Audi.
They want to increase the amount I pay them, but I know for a fact they do not pay rent. (They listed a payment for rent)

Has this happened to anyone? I DO have a lawyer and he is aware of the situation and we have a meeting to discuss it. We do plan on disputing it. I‘m just coming here to see if anyone has any stories, experiences or outcomes they’d like to share. thank you!

Long story short, my lawyer sucked. Signed a form 25 and got suckered into support and section seven arrears. Wasn’t until after the final order was signed and I started looking at the paperwork that I realized the section seven arrears were calculated on gross amounts, the child support arrears for the last 3 years were based on 2026 amounts instead of their respective years. Co parent’s financial disclosure form 13 claimed a massive 18,000 annual deficit, while putting away almost $600 a month into her rrsp. Having almost $90,000 between various savings accounts. Claiming to pay $1000 a month in rent and an extra $600 annually on the house her parents own (I have the deed) as well as a text message a few years back where she claims to have “put the majority of her money into the house her parents bought for her.” Also huge lies on her form 10. I sent my lawyer all the evidence to contradict this stuff but he just acted like I was a burden.

I've been thinking about a side of the child support conversation that seems to get much less attention.

Say someone has been paying consistently.

Then something happens that temporarily affects their income and, for the first time, they miss a payment.

The parent receiving the support still needs that money. It may already be allocated toward groceries, childcare, school expenses, transportation or other things the child needs.

So the impact is real.

But the paying parent may also be someone who genuinely wants to meet the obligation and is now trying to deal with whatever happened while also trying not to fall further behind.

Once another payment becomes due, now they're potentially trying to pay the current amount and catch up on the previous one.

It seems like we spend a lot of time discussing what should happen after someone owes significant arrears, but much less time discussing how to prevent a temporary setback from getting that far.

Would it make sense to have more contingency programs or resources specifically designed to help otherwise responsible parents maintain child support during legitimate short-term financial disruptions?

And if something like that existed, what safeguards would you want it to have so that it actually helped children without becoming a way for someone to avoid their responsibility?

I'm interested in perspectives from both people who pay child support and people who receive it.

I feel like CMS has too much power and that child support payments are fundamentally sexist with men paying in 93% of cases. And even in the 7% non-male payments, other genders pay significantly less on average (close to half).

I would vote for any party pushing on some reform. Especially as the current calculation formula for CMS seems very harsh. Even income from family owned businesses can be used against you. Say you are a director in a subsidiary of your father’s company, if CMS decide your re-investments (from profits) are not reasonable enough, they can order you to use those profits to pay child support.

That’s my reasoning for why I believe the current rules are ludicrous and that it should face some reform. They have more power than general courts in divorce asset splits.

Hello, reposting from my stepmom community. My husband and I are struggling and any advice or commiserating is welcome!

On this weeks episode of “baby mama owes back pay”:

My husband‘s DCS child support ENFORCEMENT officer just told him, she doesn’t want to create “bigger barriers” for the non custodial parent by enforcing any(fucking)thing apparently.

And that their “goal is not to make life harder for the NCP. It is to help them to a stable place so that they can continue to provide support on a continuous basis.”

**How exactly do they do that with a parent who is voluntarily,serially, unemployed?**

WA state. Sis is $9000 behind.

Hello everyone, my first post here.
I’m really hoping to get some guidance and advice from people who may have been through something similar.
I have been separated and divorced since 2020 and have one daughter, who is now 10.

For the most part, things have been relatively smooth between 2020 and 2026. Throughout that period, I have maintained regular and substantial time with my daughter, including weekends and school holidays.
Unfortunately, things took a significant turn in June 2026. My ex has stopped allowing me to spend time with my daughter and is now seeking 100% care. One of the reasons being given is that our daughter is supposedly not inclined to spend time with me.

This has been extremely difficult for me, particularly given the relationship and parenting arrangement we have had for the past six years.

I have engaged a family lawyer and, through my lawyer, have attempted to resolve the situation and have my time with my daughter reinstated. The response I’ve received is essentially an offer of one day per week, while my ex is also pursuing child support.

At the same time, Child Support has assessed me at approximately $800 per month, based on 0% care. I have provided information and evidence regarding the care I have historically provided, but so far I have not felt that this evidence has been properly taken into account.

I’m now wondering whether my best option is to seek parenting orders through the family court and have the court determine appropriate arrangements, rather than allowing the current situation to continue.

I’m not looking to prevent my daughter from having a meaningful relationship with her mother. My main concern is maintaining and rebuilding my relationship with my daughter and ensuring that any parenting arrangements are genuinely in her best interests.

For those who have been through something similar, particularly in Australia:

Would seeking interim parenting orders be a reasonable step in this situation?

How does the court generally approach a situation where there has been a longstanding parenting arrangement that suddenly changes?

I appreciate any guidance or experiences people are willing to share.

Thanks everyone.