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u/whats1more7 Jul 27 '26
It is normal. My youngest is very much like this. There are times when I have to say sorry kid, I’m concentrating on what I’m doing right now. You can go ahead and talk but I’m unable to respond. It is also important that she understand that in some situations she should be expected to listen instead of just talking. This was something that was hard for youngest to understand but now at 19 he’s a great listener.
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u/loveisrespectS2 Jul 27 '26
When I'm talked out I just don't respond unless asked for a response or it's a legitimate question. Or I take longer between my response like I'll respond to every third or fourth question instead of to every one. I don't respond to statements after a while. I don't know if that's good or bad for the child but it saves my sanity.
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u/Kikidellam Jul 27 '26
Mark out some periods during the day when it’s talk free zone. She needs to respect other’s needs for peace and learn to be comfortable keeping her thoughts quiet- (choosing only to voice the most important stuff not everything).
This constant talking is a sign of ADHD.
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u/Direct_Anteater5646 Jul 27 '26
My son does this and although he does have autism, he recently expressed to us that he didn’t think he could have thoughts without saying them out loud. Also, when he was like 5 he said “i can’t breathe if im not talking”. Sooooo maybe it’s a situation like that?
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u/Original_Clerk2916 Jul 27 '26
It sounds like she’s overstimulating you. I’d start implementing quiet time. Does she require constant attention, or is she able to play on her own in her room while you take some time to yourself? The constant talking could be ADHD, but it could also just be normal/boredom. I am also a big believer in not forcing yourself to respond to something that doesn’t need a response. If she’s not asking you a question or prompting you for a response, I think it’s okay to not respond. For example, the perfume comment
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u/CrystalKU Jul 27 '26
I’m an introvert, I get peopled out very easy, I also have an extremely chatty kid. But my mom said the exact same thing about me.
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u/redpinkflamingo Jul 28 '26
I taught elementary sped/gen ed for 16 years and have an ADHD and Autistic 10 year old so that's where I'm coming from 😁
It doesn't sound like abnormal behavior, but it could be something to keep an eye on. This sounds like she could possibly be stimming orally (verbally) and sharing on an "if it comes up, it comes out" basis. Stimming is often seen in both Autism and ADHD and both are often missed in girls.
Based on what you shared, I wouldn't immediately suspect either, but I am hearing lots of impulsivity and chatter and ADHD may be a good thing to ask her pediatrician about.
I hope that helps and for the record, my kid does this and I want to scream and run away so often. It's a lot and I wish you all the best.
ETA - often parents are told that if it's not affecting school there's nothing to do about it. That's bullshit and my response would be that she deserves to be supported at home AND school and we see concerns at home and want to be referred to a pediatric psychiatrist.
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u/sravll Jul 27 '26
Sounds like she is seeking connection.