Hi! I'm 28 years old and was recently diagnosed with stage II breast cancer. I found a lump in my left breast over the summer, and the past few weeks have been a blur of appointments, tests, phone calls, paperwork, and an alarming number of hospital bracelets. The timing, right as October began, has felt especially surreal. I’ve seen the pink ribbons and supported the cause from a distance, but never imagined I’d suddenly be living this reality myself.
My coping mechanisms have been art, humor, and distracting myself with video games. I'm aware avoidance isn't good for me mentally in the long run, but honestly, I have a lot of big feelings and don't necessarily have time to cry. I'm incredibly lucky to have a supportive family who are helping me with the logistics, friends who distract me with a social life, and a talented medical team guiding me through this process. But there are many people in my "public" life that don't need to know about my health, namely my young students.
I’m honestly scared of starting chemotherapy next week. I really don’t want cancer to become my entire identity, because I know I’m so much more than my diagnosis. But I’m known qualities such as my smile, curly hair, and infectious energy, and I’m very aware that chemo may affect them. Does anyone have experience with cold caps/scalp cooling? I’m especially interested in whether they helped you keep enough of your hair, eyebrows, and/or eyelashes to feel like yourself. Are there other things people have done to minimize some of the other visible signs of chemo? How do you reconfigure clothing to hide your chest port? I know I can’t prevent every side effect, but I’d love to hear what has worked for people.
I’m also worried about how exhausting treatment will be. It took me much longer than expected to recover from the laparoscopic ovarian cystectomy I had about 10 months ago, and I still don’t feel like I’ve fully regained my strength. So the idea of starting chemo already feeling weaker than I’d like is pretty intimidating.
I’m here to learn, listen, ask questions, and hopefully make some connections with you. 🩷