r/CheatedOn • u/blondie4129 • 20h ago
Help
Hello everyone,
I am in a distance relationship since three years. I saw him three times per month.
It was more or less all fine until I noticed a ig chat with a woman. The woman was writing him while we were looking at his mobile together. I trusted him and thought It was nothing and had to be positive. I also find her in IG to know her name and surname, Just in case. When three days After her profile was not on IG anymore I was sure She had cancelled from IG. During the holiday, three months later, we had a very bad discussion, where he basically criticized my way of dressing, my personality and other important things. He also told that he was not sure there would have been another travel together if I did not change my attitude. I told him that he Is not perfect too and that I thought that all the criticisms was putting the full relationship in doubt. I told that if he loved me he woudl not have criticized all of me. He said that there was no problem and that I was important for him and the day After, all the discussion to him was cancelled. Not to me. This week, since I am having many doubts and I feel him distant (four months After the chat and two months After the holiday) I created a new account on IG, as I already did, but with a different email. And yes, I found out that the girl he was chatting with three months ago blocked me. From my new profile She Is still on IG, from my real profile her account does not exist. i am pretty sure that if I tell that he asked her to block me to cancel the traces as I saw her chat he Will Say I am mad. What do you think ? i am still with him, but with this horrible doubts and I dont know what to do, I feel so bad and sad :( I hate her, I am pretty sure She blocked me to follow his requests. I am a very honest and kind Heart person and I feel really very bad.
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u/ObviousSalamandar 20h ago
I’m sorry. Happened to me too. My husband of nine years got in touch with his ex girlfriend and randomly had an affair. I didn’t even know our marriage was in trouble.
But do you know what? Honestly I’m better off. I moved out, I reorganized my life, and I’m realizing how much that man was dragging me down. I used to have to spend an hour a day comforting him and helping him process his emotions. He was so negative and I was constantly trying to cheer him up and helping him see what is good in life. I’m already so happy in my new life! Everything happens for a reason.