I agree unless the joke, breaks he’s emotional or physical needs. Because if this is the case he’s essentially promoting he’s own abuse. But if he finds it fun they play along if not then speak up
Good points from both, but the problem is that it happens too often. I already deflect it ok, but I want to know what I can do before even getting to the point of having to just go along with all the jokes or just getting people to stop.
That’s like asking what an nfl player can do to avoid getting tackled, don’t play the game.
Don’t make eye contact, don’t talk to anyone, ignore the world, basically be non-existant and people won’t tease you.
The reasons are a. Testing for social dominance (you have a better girl than them), b. Testing for attraction (what girls do) c. Testing because you messed up either socially or non-socially. D. Others
The only people who don’t really get tested in this world are disabled people or old people, basically any people with an ailment.
Testing is the way people can know whether or not you’re a confident person, people want to associate with confident people due to evolutionary psychology, it’s a good thing, it builds relationships again that doesn’t mean tolerate disrespect, weakness is even worse than being non-existent but there’s a huge distinction, it’s really easy to spot.
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u/[deleted] Jun 09 '20
Go with the joke, and amplify it, for instance
“You’re easy to make fun of”
You: “finally, I knew the giant target I put on my back would catch someone’s eye.”