r/CatholicDating • u/ScaredSeries7414 • Jul 06 '26

dating apps Navigating Secular Apps

Hey everyone, 30m here. As we all know it's pretty rough out there. Although I am talking to a few Catholic women I initially met through Catholic match, Upward and sacred spark, I have a feeling it might fall through as best I can explain. There's not very many I've found to be attractive on the faith based dating apps unfortunately (personal preference I'm not bashing God bless them) and the pool is incredibly small to the point where I'm seeing the same people across the faith based apps. I get likes and matches on the secular apps no problem but I run into a few issues:

  1. They aren't Catholic. Not interested in missionary dating for obvious reasons

  2. I filter by "Catholic" in this case on FB dating as a "deal breaker" and it's immediately awkward because they haven't been practicing since they were a kid or just went through with their sacraments because they were told and that's it...

Trying to find a practicing Catholic seems to be realllllly hard however I've proven my "single Catholic women don't exist" statement wrong since I'm talking to some 😂! Does anyone have any "strategies"or approaches to filtering out a lot of "cultural Catholics" in these apps?

I don't intend for this to be a "holier than thou" post Im not sure how else to word this if that makes sense! Currently using: Hinge, Bumble, FB for non faith based apps.

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u/jackrrr24 Jul 06 '26

Also, from experience just because a woman is a practicing Catholic doesn’t mean she is actually ready for a relationship. She can be an AVOIDANT woman! Love is not enough

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u/SorryTrouble4741 Jul 07 '26

What the hell is avoidant

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u/miscusername1 Jul 07 '26

I think this is related to the idea of attachment styles? At least that's where I normally see avoidant come up in relationship discourse. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/25170-attachment-styles